Yes I married one. His crime happened before we started dating but I knew him way before because his sister was married to my cousin. We had always been friends and I knew his charge was stupid anyway. He was 20 and slept with a girl who claimed she was 18. This guy would not hurt fly and didn't deserve to be labeled for life and I do mean life. He got lifetime parole supervision and lifetime registration for a statutory non forcible 3rd degree sex abuse. Never went to prison but a halfway house and probation for the first 5 years. Anyway, I really think it depends on the case and the woman. It does take someone whose open minded and willing to not take things a face value. Really if she can't give you the benefit of the doubt after getting to know you than she probably wouldn't be one you'd need around anyway. This does effect your relationship if there's kids or will be kids involved as well of course. Good luck there are good women who aren't ignorant out there you just have to find us. ;)

The girl was not 18 she lied and was only 15. She told her friend who told her mom who told the girls mom who pressed charges knowing the girl lied about her age but it didn't matter.

I met my sweetheart the day after he was released from prison on parole in 2013. He'd moved in next door and I attend church with his Dad and Step Mom who I love and adore. I went over initially to meet him and "Scope" him out because he was living so close. He mentioned he needed help finding certain services to meet parole requirements and I offered to help. When I went over the next day to give him the information, he handed me a 2-inch thick stack of papers and said "Here's what I'm facing. There are no secrets. Ask and I'll tell you." He never EVER hid anything from me. I helped him everyday with one thing or another. Then I found myself intrigued by him so continued to go back every day...first for an hour, then two, then four. By two weeks into it, at Thanksgiving, I spent 15 hours with him. By December 10th, I was madly in love. His parole was revoked in March and he returned to prison and Will be out next May. We were sent to each other by God and I can't imagine my life without him.

So here I am, about to be 21 and have been dating my boyfriend for a year. I am head of heals. I have never felt so connected with anyone in my life and her is truly my best friend. He is a sex offender. He is now 27 but was convicted when her was in his late teens. He was diagnosed with an addiction to porn, pleaded guilty, did his two years in prison, is on parole but finished the mandatory groups and has beaten his addiction.

I have known about his situation since we started talking. At first it hurt, and I was scared and shocked. But then I realized that you cannot truly judge someone for their past just because they got caught that one time that maybe you didnt. So I feel for him, hard. And now we are really thinking about our future together.

There is a catch however, I havn't told my parents. And honestly.... im terrified too because I have no idea how they will react. And I don't know how to do it. How does one start that conversation?

In need of help DS. I want my parents to know that this man is not a bad guy, he just made a mistake when he was a kid..... what do I do?

I'm new here and I'm glad to be a part of this group. I was married for 28 years and my wife Knew about me right after we were married in 1993. Shortly after I was convicted of Child Endangerment a misdemeanor and sentenced to five years probation and 364 day in the county jail in New Jersey. We moved to Florida where I served my probation that ended in 2002. I have been a good and productive part of society since I was released from jail and have been ever since. Now that my wife is gone, I fear I will spend the rest of my days without a woman to love and share the years I have left. I'm on social security and unemployable because of my record that is treated as if it happened yesterday.
If I should ever get lucky enough to meet another woman, when do I reveal the truth about my circumstance. Today all a woman has to do is look you up on line and that's all she wrote.
I'm still young and have much to offer, I just don't want to be around children anymore. I'm just looking for companionship with a woman who will give me a chance.

It's been 10 hours since police raided my house at gun point. Scariest ordeal of my life currently. But it seems like the scariest part has yet to come. My boyfriend the love of my life has been arrested on a fellony offense for some site he clicked on...this is the first night I will not have him next to me since we met we have been inseperable...I have no idea how long he's going away for. I'm just so heartbroken. I was looking for help or hope that theirs other women like me that want to stand by their man to the fullest. I was curious what it was going to be like when news gets out. I'm prepared to lose friends to stand next to my boyfriend. But I want to know if life gets better? Right now I'm so devastated. And just wish I could help him. I'm scared this will be too much for him. He's such a honest and caring person. He wouldn't even hurt a fly. Just a couple weeks ago he saw a woman getting mugged and immediately ran to her aid to fight the guy off. He's a good guy... I'm so scared for what's on down the road and I just want to talk to someone.. I have no one to talk to about this :( I want to know what I can expect in the near coming future..I have no kids and don't want kids I am 30 he is 32 . .I just need someone to talk too. Reading halls stories makes it seem like I'm not wrong to stand beside him. But I just need to know what the future holds.. How do you have that talk with someone?? So many questions

hello. i recently moved to another state and went to a resturant with a best friend. there i met this wonderful guy. we started dating and 2 and half months in he tells me he is a RSO. He made a poor choice when he was 28. He wasnt mentally all there and wasnt thinking straight bad timing he did something stupid slept with some one under age. Now for the rest of his life he is faced with this. I have a daughter that is 12 turning 13. she really likes him. I have already contacted her bio father and hes okay with me being with this man as long as he can show proof that he is okay to be around children and has taken the classes needed for his offense. i am head over heels in love with him and i want to be with him. hes a great guy and i finally found someone that i can connect with and i find this info out. honest my first thought was that i still love him the same. i asked another friend and she said why let others dictate your life. she said that if i was happy then why let a mistake ruin the love i have with him. as long as he knew he was in the wrong and he doesn't have anything else on his record that would jeapordise my life and my daughters then she didn't see anything wrong with it. i've been in some pretty messed up relationships. verbally abused sexually and mentally. i finally found a man that fits what i'm looking and he goes and tells me that. it blew me away at the same time i still held the same feelings as before. i have yet to talk to my daughter about it. because in the end it will be her choice if shes comfortable with a man with rso in her life. i know that maybe she shouldnt know however this just doesnt effect me it effects her as well. if she isnt okay with him then i cant be.

I married one! I did not know him prior to his conviction, but met him 12 years after his whole ordeal started. I remember the night he told me, it was actually our third date and he said he just needed to be honest with me because he enjoyed my company and understood if I never called him back. Clearly, I stuck around, but I never really worried about it or questioned it. I figured it's not my place to judge him for something he's already served time for and I would stick it out and get to know him. If he was a bad man, I had free will to leave. He is genuine, kind and caring. He is a wonderful father to our son and he is a wonderful husband. He respects his family and has a close relationship with his mother and my entire family. When he met my family and they all found out, obviously they were all shocked...it's not something everyone is exposed to. In time, they got to know him and they love him. They don't think anything different of him or negative, they do think his situation is unfair and do what they can to emotionally support us when we hit our lows.

It makes me really sad lately watching all these celebrities being accused of certain things because my social media is filled with sour judgement from a lot of people I thought I knew. Everyone always assumes the worst. No one wants to hear someones story. Or reason.

At the end of the day, make sure you take care of yourself and whoever you choose to be with treats you and your family right. As for everyone else, it's not their life or their decision....they won't walk in your shoes. God is the only one with the right to judge someone for what they've done. The world would be a much better place if everyone just minded their own business and tried to understand situations or the fact the people can change.

Best of luck to you. I try to log on here often, but haven't really lately. For anyone on here struggling, I'm just a message away. I struggle inside a lot too, it's a difficult road.

I honestly am having a difficult time reading some of the things I'm seeing on here. The term RSO means a wide range of things and not all of them are horrible. Men who have been convicted of more dangerous offenses like child sexual abuse, physically or mentally harming a child, or violent rape of a woman, would not be people I brought into my home around my family. I know there can be extenuating circumstances, but I simply wouldn't care to heart it. I'd definitely be casual friends but trusting them around vulnerable people I love would be a definite no go. It also depends on if they are repeat offenders, how long since they last offended and how old they person they sexually abused was. Guys who caught with slightly younger underage folks where the age difference was under 4-5 years, would get a free pass from me as long as force wasn't used.

This whole idea of not even asking and just assuming he paid his debt to society so it's all good is a dangerous and ridiculous decision in my opinion. In my state of NC there are laws that prohibit certain types of offenders from living in a home with children while they are on probation. You wouldn't know if a person is on probation if you didn't ask.

I read all the replies and what I’m mainly getting is people saying they have done it too and it turned out great because the RSO is innocent, or has committed a “small” crime. The issue isn’t so much with the crime, it’s with the risk of re-offensing. My boyfriend was guilty of possession of child pornography, a “small” crime but after his legal time and probation, we now have very little law restrictions (we are from Canada so I won’t go into details), regardless of the law though my boyfriend is sexually attracted to young boys and this will never go away (there is no cure for pedophilia). His goal, and now that I know my goal as well, is never to act on his sexual desires. Many studies have showed that the factors that decrease the risks of committing a second offence are: having a good relationship with their mother, having someone (a friend, an online group , a therapist) they can openly talk to about their deviant sexual attraction, not being isolated, having a stable job, and BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. I am proud my boyfriend has admitted to me he is a pedophile. I will never ignore that fact, but he’s so much more than that. It doesn’t define him. It’s only a small part of who he is, and i believe with hard work and acceptance it can be an even smaller part.