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UPDATE 5 YEARS LATER. 4/15/2022 Go to last post.
Need to vent. My wife and I have been together a total of 12 years, 7 married. We seemed to be doing fine, taking trips, having intamicy, and talking about our future together. Then something changed. One and a half weeks before Easter she pulls me in the room and tells me she's no longer in love and there's something missing between us and she wants a separation. Of course I was shocked and I did all the wrong things like begging, saying I will do whatever she wants, writing her letters and so on. Well on Easter I logged into the phone bill and see that she has been calling the same number and texting for about a month very frequently and multiple times daily. I asked her and she admits that she has been talking to a boyfriend that she dated 26 years ago when she was 21 and now she has feelings for him. He got her number from a mutual friend. This guy asked her to marry him back then and she said no and then married her ex-husband. During their marriage this guy contacted her. She said she was married and that was that. Her marriage went downhill and her ex-husband cheated and so on and she ended up divorced. I think she had got it in her head that if she would've married this guy she would've had some kind of a perfect life. Me and her met after that and we grew together and had a great relationship and marriage. Her whole basis for falling for this guy now is "He never forgot about me" or "he never stopped looking for me." Sounds like some kind of high school girl when she talks, definitely not the 47-year-old that she is. This scumbag is a divorced father of three and an ex LAPD cop. I think he might've been fired. My wife has always been a little gullible and very easily manipulated and this guy obviously has manipulated her and she allowed it. One of the first things he asked her is "are you 100% happy in your marriage" and she said "not 100%." Of course he immediately started telling her everything she wants to hear and suddenly I mean nothing anymore. We are still in the same house and she acts like she doesn't even know me and it's extremely awkward and hurtful but I'm trying to take care of myself and her kids whom I've raised with her. They are both extremely upset and hurt. They were one and a half years old and six years old when I met them and now they are 13 and 18. She's been trying to manipulate and bribe the 13-year-old by telling him this guy wants to take him fishing and take him to a Bears versus Panthers game to which he replied that he is not going with her and going to move in with his biological father. It's very sad because this is completely out of character for her. She has always been an excellent mom and would've looked down on this behavior anytime before this. Not sure if she's going through some kind of midlife crisis but anyway I know what I have to do at this point. Thanks for reading this.
In the marital home. He moved out over to his mothers
House all in a big huff. He thought i would move out
after he asked for a divorce. His business was on the
property too.
He had wanted to go away with her, was how it all came
out. Supposedly a few others were going too and she Was
riding along. I told him he was a married man and No he
was not going away with her.
It was a long hard 10 months before the divorce and
decree, we Still co shared the property, he just did not
live there. Then i moved out afterward And left town
into an apartment. HUGS
I'm not kidding. She's off her trolley. Not in a bad way - in a get help way. This is not a midlife crisis, this is nervous breakdown stuff. She's in psychosis or something.
wife's having a mental breakdown. I kid you not. Get her a counsellor.
I'm not kidding. She's off her trolley. Not in a bad way - in a get help way. This is not a midlife crisis, this is nervous breakdown stuff. She's in psychosis or something.""
USELESS ADVICE...you've obviously never been through this. It's all too common. Not a nervous breakdown. She's detached and done, happens every day
Secret phone? Are you kidding me? Like a teenager hiding things from your parents?
I just can't be bothered lying and sneaking around, I really can't.
Sounds like an anxiety producing, uncomfortable way to live.
You deserve better.
None of us deserves the poor treatment some have put up with, but I figure it will make me appreciate someone good in my life all the more.