Is everyone feeling better now?

It's what You wrote in your post Rman. The words are right above....

I'm not clairvoyant, but I can read.

So sad this group does not have voice features. I think it would solve some of the issues here in this silent, expressionless group.

I didn't take offense to the original post but I did take it as a bit sarcastic which might have been avoided if voice was heard. Just how I took it.

Phishy, nod nod, I think that is often a big part of the problem in online disputes.

An analogy using a white supremacy group and violence paints a rather delusional picture, dontcha think??? These people were supportive to many, new and old, and it is well documented in threads announcing their departure. They are not monsters, they are just as much a victim of this mess as anyone else, and any indication to the contrary is false and insulting.
Ms. Drop, of course you don't bring it up every day or three, why would you bring it up every day or three? You are not feeling rman's loss, and you trying to patronize him with alternatives shows anything but empathy.

Hugs to all!!!!!

Where is ms. Captivated? I do miss her insight.

When my husband abandoned me, when i found out about his secret life, when I discovered his actual crimes against me, I believe it broke something in me, something that had previously survived battery, physical attacks, gang rape, life on the street forced on me at age 15.

When I came here to B/D @ DS, I found people that would listen and understand and accept me and my extreme issues. It made the difference between me taking my life, or not. Like that would matter in this discussion, because a suicide would be a small price to pay for someone else's ego issues being resolved...... through banning effective members here.

After the purges here over the summer, I was so fragile from the ongoing legal nightmares, the total isolation that is a constant, the horrors of trying to date to relieve the isolation, that when i came here, and almost all the ones that understood me had been purged,
without explanation, simply because others felt inadequate or excluded from a fantasy clique or rejected or inarticulate or whatever....I was so despondent that I harmed myself for the first time in forty five years. There was talk of inpatient treatment on the part of my therapist. Uh no. I already have that tee-shirt.

My suicidal ideation is back all the time now. For some reason, probably because I am so notoriously depressed, i wasn't targeted to be excluded as many were, but this place is a carcass of what it was without some of the most giving people I have ever known in my life.

The so called clique were caring highly experienced and compassionate survivors, some who had lived through atrocities, and they were people with KNOW HOW. I see some very lame ass consolations being handed out here now in place of helpful how to.

Rman, some of your posts drive me to distraction and have triggered me at times. But you are loyal to your friends, to your self and you have a grateful heart. I appreciate those qualities very much. Thank you for your expressions. It is a shame that the narrow cannot perceive .....

All the passive-aggressive ones who can't express except
when there is no possibility of real discussion or OMG (!) actual
disagreement..... (perish the thought!) are as guilty as the banners. A lot of newbies, and people like me who are in endless cycles of legality which begets depression are at risk . Just because the old timers made some feel inadequate. My guess is: most things make the ones that did all this damage feel this inadequate.

This is as polite as I know how to be on the subject.
Down with articulate, humorous, outrageous, generous and experienced, competent and effective.
Up with... well, whatever's left.

I support discussion, debate and opposing views more than you know. The discussion on this thread, before it became attacking and personal was not about opposing views or perceived inadequacies. It never has been for me anyway.

I feel sad for those of you who have to go elsewhere to get the support of your friends, rather than on this forum.

I also feel sad that the abuse was so long and insidious that it came to this. It never should have.

I wish it would have gone another way.

And that this place wouldn't have lost anyone, created so much distrust and anxiety, felt like an unsafe place to be open and sharing for any of us.

We all made the decisions we felt were best. I know I spent a lot of time agonizing and discussing my choices with others. There isn't anything left for me to do now except accept this is how it played out.

But I am glad that you all still have ways in which you do get support from your friends, on FB and other venues. It would have been much much worse if there would be no chance at continuing your friendships. I know they care about you, and you them.

boyd,

Sorry you feel that way but you do have the right to express your thoughts just as other have the same right. I do not understand your need to drag those with less to offer down your path but it's not something I will stress over. With that said, I do hope those that love you through all this as I am sure you are worth the effort. I also understand more of the thought patterns shared here from this post. Thank you for expressing your feelings. Best wishes to you.

Actually you are wrong...because I really don't give a shit...

Purged...good term.

To you, your support system was a bit of a lifeline. To some your support system was simply in the way of others.


A pm response to them being purged by one who insists on pm'img??? "They had a good run". This place and its mission cannot mean much to someone who would say that, imo.

Hugs.to.all

projection again

Please stop putting words in my mouth. It only serves to create the problem all over again.

The anger, hostility and hurt will eventually come to an end. If it is not solved within the group the site will eventually close the board down. Seen it happen before. Sad for those that need a support system outside of their face to face life.

Thank you for affirming my rights and my value? I apologize Fishy, that I do not get your gist.

In the most simple terms: I resent that support at this site was compromised due to personal jealousy and a severe personality disorder run amuck. That is my closely held belief. And I believe that their are personality disorders that are worse than my own. There are people acting out here that have acted out elsewhere in cyber, and bannings were the result of their successes here..

I am not sure what your reference about dragging others infers and I don't appreciate the allusion, but if you are not stressed after making that obscure revelation, then it is all good.

Best wishes to you too.

At reply 70.. how did your story about a violent white supremacy group relate to this discussion, if not to attack or personalize??