BP is cracking me up here.. nope, I haven't spray tanned, but i have used self tanner. Lol!

I just want an honest man without addictions. And if he put some effort into the relationship that would be cool.

RIght now coffee...

I want someone who is proud of my accomplishments and supportive when I fail. I want someone with a good work ethic who also knows how to let loose when it's time to play. I want a guy who will play soccer in my backyard on a Sunday afternoon or watch tv and play games with me after work, but be equally at ease wearing a tie and taking me dancing. I want a man who is intelligent and doesn't feel threatened by a woman's success. I want to be all of those things to my partner. And yes...I want food and sex and beer.

After giving this post much thought... I have come to the two word conclusion of...

Who cares?

Thank you, and blessed be you, and other crap.

I am with reply #13..added in maybe a good dresser..lol. But I want honesty, respect, and to have open communication good or bad...maybe to be told that they are important once in a while and beautiful even when they don't feel that way.

At Jo's reply #70...went that way in my marriage until I finally got hit the Jeopardy Daily Double when I asked him as a last resort if there was someone else and then guess who that someone was...so I ain't NO mindreader either.

I don't have near enough time to read this whole thread (my laundry is not gonna do itself....even though my kids seem to think it does ;P) but what I want is someone who is not going to lie to be and can give me some emotional and financial security. The rest is just frosting, baby!

Communication and sex are normally not a problem. What I find hard to deal with is emotionally unstable women. The first woman I knew of course was my mother who was pretty rock steady. That is my frame of reference. My ex turned out to have no inherint stability, much like a stunt plane, she was also a pillow talker and would go on and on in cirlces about the small issues to avoid the big important ones.

Other gals were more steady but needy and seemed to flip out over imagined things.

My asian friend has the perfect balance in personality for me and she does hot yoga daily, I just am not attracted to her.

It seems really tough to be in a relationship, it takes a lot of work. I need a gal that is whole and wants to compliment each others lives not make them whole by my addition.

I do know that I can be better on the next go around as I have grown up a bit and can love the inner person if they are indeed lovable. I want someone that is active like me and into being fit but I am not going to ask her to go to the gym and perform lunges to have a more perfect booty, that was the immature part of me in the past.

I cannot take 20 phone calls a day and jealous freakout episodes over nothing.

The odd thing about now is that I found a lot of gals 38-46 were like I was at 18, completely pre-occupied with sex. That burns out quickly so I am not looking for 1 hour tuck-in phone calls I am looking for similar interests where we enjoy doing things together and that keeps the relationship going. Rollerblading, skiing, books movies etc.

When we were younger less mattered.

I recently met my highschool college girlfriend on a ski trip on the mountains and OMG we had nothing at all in common , yet I dated her for 6-7 years because back then I cared about one thing above all.

I want to be made love too, by a blind man;-) I think that will cover it! LOL..
Honestly we are all human beings, with similar wants and desires if we are semi healthy, and I am...