It will get better. I couldnt imagine making ____ top my ex ever again. Thought I didnt want to have a physical relationship ever.... But hey I have needs.

That is just it...I have no 'needs' in that area...it is not something I 'need' nor is it something I really want...for me it is about as exciting as going to the library...

Rhombre, I feel sorry for situation, I do. Some women do use sex as a weapon or a bargaining chip and that's not fair. And then again, there could be physical factors at play.

My ex had a BDSM fetish ... and didn't tell me about it until deep into our relationship. I don't mind a little kinky and spicy but I do mind torture. And when it became all about torturing me for his pleasure, that's when sex became an issue.

Some women may use sex but some men abuse it.

W

100

Standing on it's own, not enough reason to leave. That, compiled with several other reasons, was enough to allow me to choose the leave.

@ Bella: Torture?? OMG, I'm so sorry, Bella.

To leave.

((((bella))))

Can we just throw all these dishonest (and yes, I'm using omission of information as dishonest here) people in an arena and let them duke it out amongst themselves?

Thanks, Faithful. One of the reasons I'm done with him.

@ Jaken -

It all about history not hormones with me...

Agreed Mavs. Maybe they can all get each other off with their varying deviancies. Leave the rest of us alone.

((knowing hugs to Bella and Mavsgirl))

Gut answer:
survive - maybe

prosper - no

be satisfying or fulfilling? - hell no

be a source of joy or satisfaction? - absolutely not

Rational answer:
I guess it depends on how much importance you place on sex. Intimacy is a huge factor in the survival or death of many relationships. Whether or not it is a factor for you is up to you and your spouse.

Some people have low intimacy needs. To deliberately deny intimacy to one who wants it is unacceptable.

Some people who WON'T will tell you they CAN'T but the truth is that they DON'T WANT TO.

Ahhh RS, the old battle between owning what you say, or hiding behind it.

Can't - Denotes physical impossibility of a task or action.
Won't - Denotes a willful and owning denial of an asked task or action.

Love it, love it, love it!

Intimacy is a huge problem for me. Got to be the right person, or it's a no go. Period. If it IS the right person, I'm fine.