Have you TOLD her that the house about to come crashing down?

I think what Jaken is saying is that sex is like a bowl of Lucky Charms...

all the more reason to get it in writing beforehand what she will do. lol

laminate it and tack it to the headboard.

* scribbles the words "thank you" on the headboard bullet list *

I was willing to stay in a sexless marriage, that is until I found out why it was sexless..

But if he had not done the things he had done I would more than likely still be with him..I am not one to give up on anything until I put forth my full effort..

But this is just me...I loved him deeply and if it weren't for his criminal activity..Crap, thinking about how I feel about him still, stings..

How do you fall out of love with someone?

Need I remind you guys that Lucky Charms ARE magically delicious?

Can't blame Jaken for falling for that.

Sheesh.

Reply 79...she dumped my ass...

(((((Lola)))))

I'm with you! I'm the one leaving so I can have the life I want and deserve, but it doesn't stop me from loving him.

Faithful- Thanks for the kind words a few pages ago. I'm not courageous, just trying to stop being ashamed because of someone elses behavior (thank you to my wonderful shrink!)

Mine did too.

Guess that's all the answer any of us needs.....or at least, gets.

Very true.

@ Lola: transfer your natural need to love a man onto a man who, right now, is worthy of your love.

Find him. Let your intuition guide you to him.

Hint: Make sure he is doing the same thing.

At this point I have no real "need" to love any man or to be loved in returned..

I am doing rather well on my own, it is just that the love I have for my STBX is not for who he really is, it is for the man I thought he was..

My brain knows the difference, my heart is still having trouble with that one..

I need physical love. I know that is shallow but, that is what I looked for in my new bride. I am insecure codependant and need to sow my love by making love. If I am going to the play ground I am going to play.

*hugs Lola even tighter*

Aww crap, I know this feeling all too well!
"the love I have for my STBX is not for who he really is, it is for the man I thought he was.."

I am sure tomorrow after having to deal with him in court I will come in here and feel so much different than I do today..

lol

It is a Titanic type of love, I can always love him, but can't be with him and not allow this to hold me back from living my life...