Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
im one month into a separation and so lost, one day my wife of 9 years came home and asked me to decide what we should go do, i was a lil tired and couldnt decide, and that was it, he had it, she texted my step-daughter and her boyfriend to come help get all her stuff and she moved out nd in with them. one week or so later she texts me and says she has to leave the state and back to her old home to stay with a friend, she had to go because even with a good job, i put her in a bad debt and she couldnt afford to live here anymore, she was living with me in my folks home while i took care of my dad everyday. for years off and on she would catch me talking to women online and each time i told her id never again, and things were fine for a few months maybe even almost a year untill it happened again, she also doesnt like how id text and ask where she was or whats she was doing all the time, and theres more, but im not even sure about posting all this here. i posted this because today she texted me saying i texted her too much and she needs more space. before then ive told her how much i truely changed since she left, ill admit, i never once thought she would ever leave me, and having that done to me has changed my outlook so much, my focus and my 110% self inwanting her back, loving her completely and no phoning it in everyday of her life and that im ready to be everything she needs. she tells me that maybe in a few months we can talk, our anniversry is in march and im a total reck, ive never loved another woman do much
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....and you texted her!
What you see as 'bit of breakthrough' was probably just her being courteous enough to answer your question. If the only thing my spouse missed about me was watching TV together and being held while he fell asleep, heck, I would consider that a nice way of him telling me that he has no real interest in me. Is that seriously something you think you can base a marital relationship on. She doesn't miss you as a man, as a lover, as a friend, as a confidant, or as a husband.
You're just so stubborn and selfish, you'll keep right on texting her, as if you can annoy her into loving you....no you don't even care if she loves you. You just want her to come back, no matter how undeserving you are or how miserable being with you makes her.
I know that me being honest, will just result in you blocking me if you haven't already. The fact is, you never came here to figure out how to reconcile yourself to this situation. You just came hoping for people to give you tips on how to force your wife to live with you, not caring if that made her happy or not.
Have you ever stopped for single moment to ask yourself why you wife should come back to you? You cheated by texting other women sexual stuff over and over while she told you it was wrong and you were hurting her. You ruined her financially, tried to control her every move pretending it was out of concern for her well-being, and didn't contribute financially. All in all, you were a piss poor husband and what's more, you didn't care, because you wanted to get your jollies, have everything your own way. You never thought for a minute that she'd actually leave you. You treated her like crap and she moved on. Any man with an ounce of dignity or human compassion would follow her directions and give her some space. We both know you're never going to do that, because you just don't care about anyone but yourself.
You just want her to come back so you can do it all over again, as I'm sure it's difficult for you to be sitting there alone every night with no one to talk to, be intimate with and you've lost her income as well. I believe you miss what she provided for you, not her as a person and that's why it's so easy for you sit around whining and worrying her into coming back when you know that's not even in her best interest to try to make a marriage with a man like you.
It's interesting that you can afford gifts for her but not cheep online therapy for yourself. Which do you think would be in your best long term interest, getting yourself straightened out or wasting money on shiny objects, hoping to lure her back?
look, i adore her and all this thats happened is my fault and i am hurting everyday because of it and not just cause she is gone, but by the fact that i know it was my ass who made it happen
It is all over. You took your marriage apart piece by piece. You are selfish an have no integrity. You're not forgiven. I hope she divorces you because that's what you deserve. To lose her.