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Hubby is being very controlling.
Told me if I don't work out he's gonna file for a divorce.
I am so sick and tired of being bossed around by him.
Any suggestions???
Told me if I don't work out he's gonna file for a divorce.
I am so sick and tired of being bossed around by him.
Any suggestions???
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
Ok, time to start the passive aggressive diet.
Dinner tonight for your husband will be a few slices of tofu and a raw carrot. Breakfast will be sugar free granola.
Dinner tomorrow night will be a handfull of almonds and a small plate of lettuce, tomatoes, celery and a no fat dressing.
etc.
etc.
etc.
Princess
Yea probably not my best advice, but I soooo hate hate hate men like that & I would of more than given him a taste of his own medicine by now had I been in your shoes.
Whether or not you divorce him, take the exercise thing slow. If you start off with a bang, you will have lots of terrible side effects, it'll only last so long, and then you'll lapse and never wanna restart it again. I'll admit this isn't easy.I've been guilty of taking on too much myself, and with the aforementioned results.
If you're that sedentary, (with fibro and more weight than you, so am I), start off with 5 or 10 minute slow walks. Now, the exercise experts will tell you to exercise three days a week or whatever. I say that for people with BP, or AD/HD, this can really wreck your workout, because we get caught up in other things, get distracted, or forget. I say, do your exercise EVERY day, only do MORE on those 3 days a week. So, for example, (I'm planning on doing this too, since I'm in bad shape, and my wife has high blood pressure now), for the first week, (or however long it takes for it to get easy), walk five minutes a day at your own pace. After that's gotten really easy to do, start upping it to ten minutes three days a week, (like Mon. Wed. & Fri. for example), and the rest of the days, keep it at five. This slowly brings you up to doing more, and gives your body a little challenge. Keep inching up this way. Like, once that gets easy, do 15 minutes 3 days a week and step it up to ten for the other days.
I believe in exercising more than dieting, because too many people screw themselves up more IMHO, with bad dieting, and it's a bad way to think about food. Healthy exercise does wonders, and even though it doesn't necessarily mean you should eat whatever poisons you want, it DOES help us get rid of toxins from our food.
As for the hub, it's hard for me to judge whether or not he's just trying to find excuses to divorce, or if he's really trying to say, "If you don't at least TRY to be more healthy, I can't sit here and watch you choose to deteriorate." If he's saying the first one, well, maybe it should be over now instead of drawing it out. If he's saying the second one, then maybe if you give him a plan of what you wanna do about it, but let him know that he can't expect the freakin' moon, and he agrees that any effort is a reasonable sign of improvement, then maybe it's workable. But, if he insists that you practically have to fix the problem overnight and doesn't accept that it will have to be a slow process, then, yeah, I would say he's just looking for reasons to throw the "D" word around. I hope it works out for you, either way. I'm sorry, it sounds tough.
Start with just trying to get in the habit.