Hm did not achieve goal. Have started a new pf goal for 1 day pf, starting at midday today. It's been 2.3 hrs and so far so good. Even though a pulled a little this morning, I have my barriers on so I'm doing ok.

It feels like you are overwhelmed, spinning your wheels... making those long lists & then just wanting to take a nap. I'm doing the same. So much to do before I got to Canada, so much to do when I get there. Making those lists, lists, lists to try to be in control, and then veering off them completely, while getting entangled in the grip of perfectionism. At least that is what it can be like for me. It is enough to make you want to tear out your hair. (I always laugh when people say that)

Breathe. Prioritize. Just start. Try to not give the trich too much power. Bandaids suck. Have you tried cotton gloves or rubber fingertips? Does a baseball cap work for you?

One day at a time. Little chunks. Move through it.

Thank you so much for your comment. It really helped. Yes, it's like that for me too. So many lists. And yes, we were talking about that phrase on someone else's thread too, Manda's I think!

OK breathe. Prioritise. Just start.

I've tried cotton gloves in the past, and they were good for reading in bed etc. The rubber fingertips, I'll have to look online. Hats I find too irritating also, though I don't mind beanies in winter.

I have started in on my to do list today, it's stuff I really should have done yesterday. I must do some more work before I'm allowed to watch some of my tv shows (guilty pleasures - Hart of Dixie, How I met your Mother, and Girls) and have a beer (it's saturday night).

Thanks again. Breathe..........

Oh and I pulled 2 hairs WHILE wearing bandaids, yes it's possible. Urgh, was so annoyed. Then pulled about 6 more when I took my bandaids off to eat something messy.

Gosh, try and try again, right?

If the bandaids aren't working, maybe it is time to find some new barriers. I find it most convenient and comfortable to just tie a scarf over my hair while I am home (plus it is winter and my apartment doesn't have heat, so the warmth is an added bonus.) Phoebe's barrier suggestions are awesome, too.

Have you tried categorizing your to do lists to help prioritize the most important things first? It is easy to get overwhelmed by to do lists, even though they can be so helpful sometimes.

One day at a time, small goals...you can do it!

Yeah new barriers, I think. Problem is it's summer here. In Australia. It's hot.

Yep, to do lists are all categorised! I have a few different ones, then another one that's "to do today". The problem occurs when I overload the "today" list. And also when I just don't check the other ones! Just requires a little more discipline.

Thanks Manda :) :)

Mm a fresh new day, full of possibility! Today could be the day, the day I'm completely pull free. I cannot remember the last day, I've fallen off the sticker chart wagon and I only started "way of life" a couple of weeks ago. I have a very nice day ahead of me. Yay!

I only pulled 2 hairs yesterday! Now that is an achievement. Unfortunately today started off well but within a short amount of time I've already pulled 5 hairs. Stress, computer, blah blah. I need a headscarf!

A really light scarf can be a good barrier even in hot weather! Good job on making it through a day only pulling 2!

love my lists. haha - i always have so many going on my phone, written on random scraps of paper, on my hands…rarely ever in my planner though, hahhaha
i think i actually have a list somewhere with 'beat trich' written on it. someday ill cross it off :)

yay for a PF minus 2 day! I'm gonna start using your diligence in recording hairs pulled, instead of doing it by time spent pulling. it really is a much better way of keeping track, thank you for reminding me of it !
hope today is going well!

Thanks you two!!

Ohhh yesterday I pulled about 30. Yep. I created a tiny bit of new damage. Argh. Well i must try and try again.

your attitude is the best :)

Breathe.... breathe... breathe. I need to CHILL THE F*CK OUT.

Pulled a few yesterday, like 10?

Have pulled about 5 today.

I'm going to go meditate. I cannot afford to keep pulling like this. I may have a ridiculous amount of stress and sadness in my life right now, but I need to work on me. Just because bad things are happening, doesn't mean I have to feel all of it all the time. I don't have to let it wear me down like I have been.

I love my lists, even when they overwhelm me, and I have to say, thanks to that app of yours, I've been way more productive. I attribute it to 2 goals: "Doing at least 2 items on the list" & "3 hours productive". Small chunks - manageable, and if I aim for those, I always end up doing more. It is getting started that is the problem.

Meditate - oh, yes. I've been bad about that, but wow, does it work. Again, just do it.

I'm sorry that you have stress & sadness right now. I don't know what is going on with you, but I imagine that this time of year, when we are all supposed to be so happy, can really bring that out. I've struggled with Xmas for years, especially when I was single. Now, it is about trying to minimize the family dysfunction. This year, my objective is to make it as enjoyable for Mum as I can, being the first year without Dad. I think it helps to really focus on what you are grateful for, and on being as selfless as you can.

I know you will rise above it, because you have such a lovely spirit, and you have the gift of humour.

Hugs!!

Oh, and maybe you are trying too hard, giving trich too much energy...??

Thanks for your comment. It really helped.

I love my lists too. I need to get all the junk out of my head so I don't need to stress that I've forgotten something. I like your small chunks..

Ahh just meditated. I feel better. Stress and sadness. Well, dementia, in a word. Dealing with a lot of things on my own. And yes, Christmas is playing into it too. 2nd xmas without Dad and my sister can't be with me. But you're right, I need to be thankful for what I do have, do the best for Mum, and create some enjoyment for myself too. I was/am letting it all get to me too much, was becoming overwhelmed with it all. But having seen a therapist a few times I am armed with some tips and tricks and as long as I work on myself I'll be ok.

Who know if I'm trying too hard or just not hard enough., re: pulling.