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  Final countdown

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  Last Reply: jennifera 01/12/2019

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  I’m not technically cheating anymore. I am 3 years or so into the divorce process and have been progressing slowly forward with OM who I love so very much. But with the papers about to be signed I am feeling scared and unsure about my decision.My soon to be ex has been trying to reason with me to come back, all along, and mostly for the kids but he also says he is still in love with me. I don’t know what to do. I miss my kids so much when they are with him and I don’t want to damage them...

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  Ambivalent for how long?

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  Last Reply: Lost11 07/05/2018

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  I am wondering if anyone else has been ambivalent and had or is having a tough time making a choice between going back/staying with their spouse or staying with their AP. I can’t seem to make a clean break either way. I feel solid in a decision and then a few hours, or sometimes a day or two, I am unsure about my decision. So I keep riding the fence. Today I want to get back with my H. I miss us and our family. Has anyone else experienced ambivalence and for how long? Please share any words...

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  Posted: 05/28/2018

  goodgrlconfuzed commented on the discussion Falling apart, please help.

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  Posted: 05/27/2018

  goodgrlconfuzed commented on the discussion Falling apart, please help.

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  Falling apart, please help

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  Last Reply: shoretimenow 06/04/2018

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  How do I get over my OM who I love so deeply? We were taking steps to be together. But together was not in my best interest for many reasons including financial, stability and keeping my family intact. I never gave my marriage a real shot to recover from my affair. I went full force into loving another man and making plans with him and our future. I am nearing the end of the divorce process that I wasn’t 100% sure I wanted, my husband moved out well over a year together, and I’m missing out...

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  Posted: 05/26/2018

  goodgrlconfuzed commented on the discussion Confused.

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  Posted: 05/23/2018

  goodgrlconfuzed commented on the discussion Feeling ambiguous.

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  Posted: 05/23/2018

  goodgrlconfuzed commented on the discussion cheating spouses who have ended affairs.

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  Posted: 05/10/2018

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  Posted: 05/05/2018

  goodgrlconfuzed commented on the discussion I haven't posted in awhile....

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  Demand for transparency/no emotional connection

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  Last Reply: gravinggirl 03/01/2017

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  What do I do if after D day I am not willing to comply with my husband's demands to be completely transparent? Initially I panicked and said I would do anything. But now a week later I cannot bear the thought of giving up my privacy. Note that our marital problems had a lot to do with me feeling controlled and losing my sense of self. So this now feels like more of the same that left me vulnerable to an affair. Not that I am excusing my behavior or blaming him for what I did. I feel so guilty...