Loneliness Support Group

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I feel alone for such silly reasons.

imiru
imiru

I'm a naturally reclusive person and I've always been quiet. It actually annoys people that I don't talk alot. The few friends I have scare me because I've been left behind or just shut out completely without explanation. So I hardly talk to them or see them. 


Romantic relationships are even harder for me because I've been cheated on, used and emotionally abused. I recently met someone that I do like but the fear of them just up and leaving or manipulating me is always there telling me it's best not to get involved.


I don't want to live like this, I want to be brave and reach out more. But I've gotten so used to people hurting me its now second nature to shut people out before anything even developes.


Are there any healthy ways to deal with these fears?

MOMBI
MOMBI
My daughter does online dating, for 3 yrs now..and exactly is as you, after being scammed, almost arrested once. You are NOT alone on this. Sometimes fear will consume us and can destroy a person's happiness. You allow yourself to check this guy out you like. Enjoy the relationship and push the fear to logical awareness and slowly check him out,,to make the decision..is this a good thing or a bad thing. I want to help you, and yet don't know what to say other than that. Gotta slowly decide about this guy...if red flags appear...end it. My daughter uses the term, red flag. Questionable actions and words.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
People say I am very quiet. Some people are annoy. I think that is just their problem. One of the amerian cultural acpect is being verbal. When you meet people you have keep talking. It is not like that is other cultures, If you are not like the majoraties, you are an outcast.
I think you should see a psycholoist to help your fears.
Maluis
Maluis
maybe changing one thing, that you know you are not comfortable with, could help, maybe let your friends how you feel might help and maybe let this person you like that you want to take it slow and if gets too overpowering tell to back off.
HIGGO
HIGGO
I have been there myself. what helped me overcome my fears was simply telling myself I am worth the risk.. if your friends cant relate to how you feel. than there not really your friends... every one has that inner strength in them.. just let it out.. you will be surprised how simple it is
Ghostwolf04
Ghostwolf04
If you like him just try to have some self control and not get coerced into bed with him because you are lonely. If he waits a month or more dating you and not sleeping with you then he is worth some time getting to know. If he starts being bossy and controlling instead of listening and asking what you want, then maybe break it off or speak up for yourself.
Remember that other people aren't mind readers. If you don't tell them how you feel or communicate, then don't resent when they don't pay attention to you. They likely haven't noticed they did anything to upset you if you don't put a foot down and establish your values.
I hope this helps. Good luck.
ChancesR
ChancesR
People get mad at me for being so quiet to.
I don't think your reasons are silly.
loulou09
loulou09
I get told multiple times a week how annoying it is to get me to respond. It’s not that I dont want to. Some days....it just can be overwhelming and I need a break. As for your friends, I am going Through the exact same thing. Ever since I distanced myself after a very violent physically abusive relationship ended, they don’t invite me anywhere or check in. It hurts. It’s heartbreaking actually. However, I dont think you should push this person away just yet if you like them. You deserve happiness. Now is the time to look for those red flags and listen to your gut.

Best wishes!
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