Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
After my AP established a strict NC he made an attempt to contact me yesterday. I do not know what he said as it is in an app we used to talk and when he cut me off it was so difficult I deleted and never looked at the app again. The 72 hours before the NC was started was very confusing, painful and left me with some new wounds to carry into the worst of it alone. I had not seen him for 3 months but we occassionally talked on the phone. He always contacted me.
The next three weeks have been the most painful, lonely, and difficult time of my life. I literally felt like my chest was going to cave in. If it wasn't for my parents and a few friends I would have gone absolutely nuts. I noticed immediately when he contacted me yesterday that it made me feel good which just upset me because I need to get over this. I was a little stronger yesterday and had a little more confidence, I'm sure due to knowing he was still thinking about me. So true that this is like a drug addiction.
I guess I'm just looking for some encouragement to not open the app back up to see what was said (I'm not going to), to keep going and not look back. Also would love to hear anyone's shared experience in their own journey.
Thanks for reading.
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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Have you made a decision about staying in your marriage or not? I know before you two were going to try EFT therapy. How is all of that going?
The AP is married, so no hope of getting with him. I understand it is hard to not talk to him, but that is more of a habit that just needs to be broken. We all get comfortable when we are in a routine of talking to someone, seeing someone, etc. even if that person is not good for us. You can start a new habit though. You can do this!!
Thank you so much for the advice. Silence still standing. I have done what you suggested. My mouth seriously dropped open when he contacted me (on my business email, app is deleted and will stay deleted) he was so final and intense when he established NC. I never ever want to repeat the pain of the last three weeks ever again. I've never struggled through something so horrific in my life. The thought of NC + day 1 was enough to send me running. Very much appreciate you commenting.
Thank you for the encouragement. I’m doing a little better but just a little. Still no contact but I do dream about him a lot. The mornings are the hardest. My father who came to stay with me two weeks after d-day finally went home this past Friday. My loneliness and fear spiked through the roof and I felt like I took ten steps back. Reading everything I can get my hands on about getting through this in a healthy way. Thank you everyone for your continued support.