Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
These discussions that go on and on with people defending their positions to the end, as well as passive-agressively slinging stones at others, are changing the tone of the board for the worse.
One of the problems in Cheaters Anonymous (from my perspective) is that people can't see, or simply accept, the viewpoints of the others. Add a few people who love to argue, and you get unending low burning wars, restatements of position, escalating emotions, fights over the definitions of word (i.e. "naive"), etc.
Now this board has become this way. It sucks. It stinks on ice. And it takes alot to stink on ice. It takes watching "Dude, Where's My Car?" ten times in one day to reach that level of stink.
Eventually if this continues, the board will lose its effectiveness. Does anyone really want that? Or worse yet, the board will turn into the cliquey crap fest that is Breakups and Divorce. (Shudder)
So, rather than taint this board, if you really want to carry on the unending arguments why not just create a member board where you can battle? Take the war somewhere else so people who are seeking help can get it without being drowned out.
(Of course, now I am guilty of the same thing but I felt it should be said. I will not make any further comments on this.)
One of the problems in Cheaters Anonymous (from my perspective) is that people can't see, or simply accept, the viewpoints of the others. Add a few people who love to argue, and you get unending low burning wars, restatements of position, escalating emotions, fights over the definitions of word (i.e. "naive"), etc.
Now this board has become this way. It sucks. It stinks on ice. And it takes alot to stink on ice. It takes watching "Dude, Where's My Car?" ten times in one day to reach that level of stink.
Eventually if this continues, the board will lose its effectiveness. Does anyone really want that? Or worse yet, the board will turn into the cliquey crap fest that is Breakups and Divorce. (Shudder)
So, rather than taint this board, if you really want to carry on the unending arguments why not just create a member board where you can battle? Take the war somewhere else so people who are seeking help can get it without being drowned out.
(Of course, now I am guilty of the same thing but I felt it should be said. I will not make any further comments on this.)
Those who don't can go to hell "
What a nice way to look at things (eye roll). So I guess what you are saying is that we can all go to hell because none of us really know you. Don't you think that is kind of a negative and arrogant attitude?
I try to be more positive. My attitude is that those who know me well, know me well, and those that don't, don't, but maybe with time they will and hopefully we can be friends. If we can't because we have divergent views that is fine and unless they give me a reason to, I don't have anything bad to say about them.
lovemarriage said: "It just seems like when the M died, so did I. So, I'm not only participating in rebuilding my marriage and fight tooth and nail to make it better---I'm also trying to do that within myself too."
I know exactly what you are saying. It is like the A killed the marriage that you knew and it also killed a little part of you as well. It killed the ideals you had about your marriage and your H.
When my H does something wonderful for me that makes me feel loved and cared for, like Iregret did for his wife, it renews my faith and makes me feel great and hopeful, but when something bad happens it seems 10 times worse than it used to.
I guess that an A often causes us to feel feel unloved, and disposable and easily replaceable in our relationship. It is a struggle to overcome those feelings and when my H does something that brings those feelings up again, even in a small way, it is harder to overcome.