SO you think his reaction was appropriate than?

Abusers gain people's trust. That is what they do. I mean his reaction is all the proof you need isn't it to show what kind of person he really is. That is how they get close to you. But just look at his ravings, and his profanity after being outed, and his extreme temper? Is that not enough for you to know who this person really is?

I think he is feeling attacked. I think he cares about many of us on here and yes he is lewd and crude, but you can also tell him to behave and he listens. That is my experience.

NO isn't. i eben attacked many time in my life and i have never react like that. There is no excuse to justification for it, and integrity only matters when you feel attacked, or in a very bad situation.

How about him saying certain women names when i never brought them up, and calling them tats and such. You think that was appropriate as well to attack them, when they had noting to do with this?

Yep Hitler was such a bad guy, and justified because he was attacked right? It is more important than ever to show your integrity, and he has shown his. I would never react that way, especially attacking other people that have nothing to do with this conversation.

I must have missed something... I haven't been on in awhile just sticking up for someone who has only ever been a good friend to me.

wow. i apparently missed a lot. but just so everyone is clear on my end, yes, geezer and i banter back and forth often. I can also be pretty blunt and crude and joke around a lot, so geezer and i play off of each other's personalities when we are bored. The nude pics thing has been an on-going joke between us through the extent of this thread.

i dont know about everything else, as i have never been involved in any of it. i know that i have never received any inappropriate messages from geezer, and none of my "friends" on here have. but that is all i can attest to.

I too know the Geezer. While he is blunt and sometimes offensive, he is also just a big jokester. If you ask him to stop, he will. He has never crossed the lines with me and I believe him to be sincere when he offers real advice. If you attack him, of course he will come back swinging. Why do you (aqua) feel the need to "expose" him? All of us that have been here for awhile (many much longer than me), know geezer and know he is just playful. EVERYONE KNOWS SENDING NEKKY PICS IS A BIG JOKE!!!!

I find it interesting as well that geezer mirror a question that he doe snot want to be asked, why is he here. Everyone, well most already know why I am here, so I od not have to defend that, not at all, but geezer why are you here. I have not once seen you post something constructive, or helpful any forum, or even asked for help, for anything. The only thing I have every seen you says, is a request for nekky pictures. it is one thing to flirt, but you go overboard, and pictures on women that might not have the best self stem. Not once have I ever seen you say something constructive to help anyone else, or asked for help for yourself?

There is a reason why you get reported, and dismissing of he ladies' feelings is mean. They have aright to feel uncomfortable with you, and they have every right to get you to stop trolling.

it is hard, because I do not want to argue when the other ladies here, because i do get it. I am sorry.

My father did it, and other women defending him while he had beat my mother, and beat my brothers' mother right in front of me when i was 13 years old, and had other men, and women ridiculing the people he abused. It was sick. I know people like him. and I know those kinds of people very well. yes he does trigger me, because I have seen this many times before, and it is there like photographic memory. My father was always charming,a had lots of friends, and was many times very inappropriate, but people trusted him. i trusted him even after he beat me, because he justified everything, and was very good at being manliputive, and getting you to defend him.

I know from first hand experience that other women do not want him here, and they have told me directly. They thanked, em, but I also understand their reluctance to come out, because they will get bashed, and their feelings will be dismissed, which is wrong.

so Kiralin you find it ok that just because you are ok with him that other woman are not, but the are afraid, because many of you defend him? They know they will get their feelings dismissed.

As i said all he does is troll, he doe something else at all that is it. he doe snot come here for help, and he doe snot come here to help anyone else on the forums that i have ever saw. WHat is your explanation for why he is banned for life than, and why does he have a need to keep coming back?

And no that is not a appropriate reaction. That is extremely explosive, and violent. So you are saying since he attack me i have aright to say the same thing to him? No I don't, because i tis not appropriate. With all due respect you are justifying his bad behavior, and dismissing other's uncomfortable feelings about him, and some have been abused by him, but they know they will be dismissed.

it is like being a victim all over again, like rape victim getting help, and everyone including that rapist family abuses have going so far as to hurt her physically, including the cops, etc.

So you dismiss these other women's feelings that have been abused by him, or feel very uncomfortable with him round?

Hmmm, HS on DS, while I have been here for a very long time, I found early on the benefit of this forumn lay in my own self discovery of myself. Easily, I could be drawn into solving all others problems, and while I do think I have helped a few people understand certain aspects of their lives, mranwhile learning more about myself.
Yes, there are all kinds who visit here, all kinds who post snd all kinds who merely lurk in the shadows, laughing learning and living.
I choose not to judge them, even though I msy completely disagree with their thoughts, practices or beliefs. Reason why, in the end, whether it be trivial BS, factual knowledge, inconsiderate banter, or out and out bashing, each and every instance holds validity to someone somewhere, whether they smile or they frown only they can see the impact.
I do not defend, less it be my friend, I do not police as I am not a CL. From experience alone, I know some who take things with a grain of salt and others who hide or confront.
Either or, human interaction is best served when all are alotted equal respect.
Makes little difference what I say or choose unless the person reading lets it be a matter to them. One of the reasons ignore was put in place.

Nobody needs to give anybody else reasons for why they are here. I DO know why geezer is here, and yes, he is crude and brash, but is also helpful and sweet.
Why do you (Aquarious) keep comparing him to someone who beats women? I don't get it. He is not pretending to be someone else in order to "gain people's trust." He is who he is, right off the bat. And, as Tossed said, you can choose to put anyone you like on "ignore," so that you don't have to ever see anything that they post.

Like you? i am really sorry you feel that way, and hope you see it one day,but not in the wrong day, and not get hurt. I know people like him. I also find it interesting you never said anything to him about asking why i was here, that is why mentioned in the first place? The ting he was banned and keeps getting banned plain and simple, and there is a reason for it, and it is not logical.

and yes he does because that is all he does is trolls. I compare him ,e because it is he same personality, and yet yo defend his reaction. I think that is completely absurd, and ridiculous, i really do. You not once said anything to him about his intense very violent reaction.

As i have said others have complained about him, and confided in me, but they are afraid of you,and all the others that will defend him that is why they do not say anything. i was afraid to say anything, but I could not sit by and be afraid when it was not right.

You are dismissing those people's feelings that do not want him here, and do feel abused by him. That is not right either. WHat is his response to those people that feel very uncomfortable to him, to call them all kinds female specific vulgar names? THat is acceptable to you if. for if that is acceptable to you, in all seriousness than you are the one I should be ignoring, because it is not acceptable, and sick, and dismissive of those other people that come here to try to be safe, and he does not make them feel safe.

Why doe she coming back knowing he will just get banned again? To me that is sick in itself. I would not come back. it is an addiction to him.

he is who is is off the bat, and that is acceptable to you for the way he acts, putting down women with vulgar language, or against me for that matter? That is acceptable?

People like him i would ignore if it was just me, but it is not just me, it is others.

By the way I am blunt, and outspoken, but is it acceptable for me to act like he does than? No it is isn't.

It is not acceptable to name-call on the boards, and that goes for everyone, including the geezer. I've been here a long time, and geezer has never personally offended me. And no one I'm friends with has ever said they had a problem with him. I suppose to a newbie or an outsider, his banter would be viewed as offensive. But that's like showing up only for the punchline of a joke and then griping that you don't get it.
I won't be "hurt" by the geezer because I know him and he is kidding in 99% of his posts. Someone long ago took him seriously and has such a small life that he/she has made it a personal mission to have him banned. That's all.