I agree Bob.

I have had in the past, but its like you said.
I prefer to be with someone i love then it is a lot more spiritual and emotional and in my opinion become making Love versus Sex.

No I don't have a FWB Bob nor do I want one.

just havin fun here........ FWB = no commitment with sex involved

So yea, I think I am in a FWBO relationship. I never made a commitment, and I keep getting screwed, SO yes I am in a

Friend with Barack Obama relationship, LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



on a serious note I do not think I could do the fwb again in my life

..FWB is just an avenue to go down for some self indulging sex....I really don't understand why that just can't be taking for face value and enjoy that moment..............dollar to donuts, if half the people here had the opportunity to indulge, my bets they would........and no I don't have a FWB, but at times sounds like fun to me anyway........

My problem is I'd probably end up falling for my FWB then get my heart crushed in the end.

I had a FWB for quite a few years. It was fun until I started developing feelings for this person. We also spent a lot of time together other than having sex. It wasn't a get in, get off and get out thing.

Looking back on it now, it was truly a bad idea. I think it ruined sex for me and has messed with my self esteem, which is fragile enough.

I am now married and we hardly ever have sex due to many many issues but things have never been great in that department and I think part of the problem is my own views of sex.

...Merc, that is the problem...its not the sex part but the falling for the person........there's a time and a place for everything...just saying

I have to protect my heart Ego so that is why I can't have one. I can't set myself up to being hurt.

Merc I feel the same way because it happened to me many years ago but it was just one sided and I ended up getting my heart broke.

That is why I can't take the chance Bob.

had fwb lots when I was single. Liked it :) no strings, just fun. Very open, lots of new experiences. If I was single, and STD ignorant like I was back then, I'd do it again, but since neither of those things is possible...well, you know.

Yes I have, but haven't exercized benefits since I've been married. But these friendships of 25 years have deep love.

i did it once and i could never do it again, i ended up getting my heart broken in the end cause i started to have feelings for him and he didnt want to be anything other then FWB. so in my opinion its not a good thing.

This usually turns out to be a bad idea, for females especially. We are just not programmed to have sex with someone and never develop deeper feelings. Most women attach sex with love (or at least deep affection), it's just what most of us do.

That said, I tried it a few times. I always fell for the guy and they always broke my heart. I learned the hard way.

Depends on the particular friend with benefits we're talking about. Someone who is really cool could make for some interesting, fun times.

Yeah, I agree, a fwb situation is like of like sipping the head off a glass of beer, hoping for some rich liquid beneath that never seems to happen. Satisfying on a purely superficial level, when one is looking for something more warm and tender, it isn't there. But, again, depends on the particular fwb we're talking about. Two people might love each other very much but don't wish to marry or be exclusive. It really depends on the particular "friends" we're talking about here.

My life is so financially chaotic at the moment that it's affecting my emotional state. I'm in "panic" mode right now. When I'm comfortable, fat and relaxed, I'll begin thinking about what kind of relationship I want.