Arem: Our situation is probably not what usually happens when a marriage splits up. Stbxh and I have no animosity, hurt or resentments towards each other at all and there never was any. We still live together as friends/roommates for the time being until we can move on without it being a financial hardship for either one of us, that will happen this coming June. He knows all about my relationship with my partner (which started after he and I finally decided it's best we split up), he knows I travel every couple months to NC to be with my partner, my partner knows stbxh and I still live together, there were never any secrets kept.

As for us still being friends with his former FWB, their FWB ended when he and I started seeing each other. What went on between them was in the past and there was never any problems or jealousy between her and I because of what they had or because of he and I getting together.

arem- "I wonder - has anyone who's had a FWB relationship in the past remained life long friends with that person after the sex ended?"

I don't know how to define lifelong, but I'm still current friends with fwbs where I first met them 11,7 & 5 years ago, and we were sexually active only in the beginning. Admittedly, I've had more were all communication ended shortly after the sex ended.

I've never looked at fwb's as an alternative to emotionally committed sex, but rather as an alternative to no sex. Plus, in hindsight I now realize I got into several "relationships" because I was horny, and once that itch was scratched, found myself in a relationship I really didn't want to be in. And I REALLY dislike that feeling.

Everyone must follow their own path, and I don't think this path is for most. But I also don't think engaging in a minority behavior makes it automatically wrong.

Delaware - I don't think it's "wrong" either.

If 2 people can make it work well then more power to them!

I agree that it needs to be a clear understanding to avoid potential heartbreaking. May not be able to avoid the emotional connections totally - but with the clear understanding I think no one will be under illusions.

Also nice to hear you're still friends with past fwb's. I think having years of friendship is great.

Do you feel those friendships are somehow a bit deeper due to the past fwb relationship?

Can you talk about new relationships with them objectively?

I just find this topic interesting. I wouldn't necessarily whole sale turn down an fwb relationship opportunity, but I would just try to be more up front about it than I might have been in the past. I'd also hope that the possible woman involved would be too.

Thanks for sharing!