Idea sounds good, but for me, never works out.

Worked for me years and years ago. I am still friends with him.

Working fine for me right now also. And we too will remain friends.

I think it will only work if your are honest with YOURSELF about what it's all about.

I am enjoying the hell out of it!

I did and it was fun, brief, and afterwards he stopped talking to me altogether. I felt like a receptacle.

...a recepticle. Good un. I'm kinda in the middle of one. Or the end? I'm liking him as a person less and less. Which helps so as not to fall for the oxytocin okie doke. I'm not persueing him, as the attention from the guy and having the upper hand in the deal, plus, the flirting is the majority of my payoff! Safer to keep my distance. If it goes into fail. That's fine too. Never bank too much into it. A fwb is knowledge and careful planning as to keep it fun and nobody gets hurt. It is what it is. Know what it is and stick to it. Cut and dry it as much as possible.

Snap, now I feel like making a phone call. Shit,don't do it.

go ahead prizz. let me give you a #

@ toss, made me laugh, made me laugh. (Hey, what's that # ?) JK

Just say no!

and your advice is awesome, hopefully hindsight is 20/20 and when/if I'm there again I'll be smarter. I was just too crazy about him. When you love them men can drive you crazy, because they know they can..
(stole that from a movie)

BeautyDebased - I think "love" and "fwb" is a fundamental problem. I think someone gets hurt to some level in that case.

Maybe the only way is that up front both are in agreement it's sex and friendship and nothing more?

I wonder - has anyone who's had a FWB relationship in the past remained life long friends with that person after the sex ended? ...In my case I didn't - mine was very short lived - only about 2 months.

@ Arem: I met Stbxh through a mutual friend, her and I were friends from the time we were toddlers (she lived across the street from me, her mom still lives across the street from my mom), her and Stbxh met in college and became FWB. They remained FWB all through college, 4 years on and off, whenever he or she wasn't dating someone else, they hung out and hooked up. She and I were out one night and ran into him, she introduced us, a week later he asked me out and the rest is history, that was 34 years ago. Stbxh, her and I are still good friends.

I tried for a month, we started falling for each other , but our relationship wouldn't have worked out, so we called it quits. I still had feelings for my ex and he is not standing on his own two feet at 38 and has no real career and he is also still hurt by his break up.
It is tough, need works out for me.

Leather: cool - nice to hear that you can keep the friendships going.

I don't know yet if I can be friends with my STBXW? We cooperate well together in regards to our kids, but I'm keeping the relationship rather business-like for now.

I still like her family a lot, and still keep in pretty close touch with her younger brother. We'll see what the future holds. I just know I'm no longer attracted to her due to the hurt and anger caused from this whole divorce thing. I've been working on releasing the hurt and anger because I know it doesn't do me or my kid's any good. Doing much better now, but my relationship with my kid's mom (STBXW) will remain cordial and committed to doing what's right for the kids. I don't see us hanging out as friends.

It's like a roller coaster ride....doesn't take you anywhere but boy it sure is one hell of a ride:-)

Rather it can be....some roller coasters are better than others!

so, I take it you like roller coaster?