Hi Advocate2

No my case was not special, I was placed on deferred, which meant I was only under indictment, could vote, keep the firearms I had and the ammo, But if I screwed up I would have been given a long prison sentence.

After I completed it ( 8 yrs,) the indictment was dropped, case dismissed and all my other rights were restored, the only problem was they lied and kept me on the registry. but we do have a way off now but it will cost.

I know that while you are still on paper it is tough being a RSO, after off paper it does seem to get a little easier, at least here it did. Not perfect, LOL

Regards buildingupslow

japgirl,

I do not think it would matter where you lived while your husband is on probation, the rules are difficult, sometimes insane, but go by them.


The 8 years will pass and while you are waiting find something you and your hubby like to do.

Also keep this in the back of your mind, if your hubbys offense was in Texas, try to deregister before you leave.

Regards
buildingupslow

Can you imagine lifetime probation? That's what we have here in AZ and other states. It is a long nightmare that never ends. Maybe it is too much sunshine!

Update on my son. So far my son has decided to stay in Mn and he did find a place to live but doesn't have a job yet, its hard just being released from prison as he needs some adjustment time but he sounds really good and it gives me hope. He is thinking of maybe going to Williston ND to the oil wells if he can't find a job. Whats sad is he walked into my step mothers building to say hi and she quickly walked into the back office to avoid him. I'm really upset with her. My own family will treat him like an out cast, this is so wrong. At least my sister took time to visit. The newspaper said he had sexual contact by force and kidnapping. How can the paper post this when the sexual charge was dismissed in court. Keeping all in my prayers.

IMO: shame on SM! I know that it's hard to live down what is floating around out there about our LO's. Seems like the young, handsome guards are the worst when I vist my LO. I'd like to tell them 1) it was trumped up so something would stick and 2) it was the internet. But I know now from reading here that holding my head up and maintaining some form of dignity is the best way to handle things.

gemmy1,

You tell your son to walk with his head up high and his shoulders straight and squared. He has absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

There will always be narrow minded people in this world that never want to look at the whole picture; they only want to harshly judges someone when the don't even know him or the entire story. That is what humans do sometimes, and no, it is not pretty.

When I first came home from prison, most of the town was behind me and knew I was innocent, but that did not stop a few people from avoiding me. When I would go into Wal Mart, I would either have ladies almost crying because of my injustice and putting their arms around me OR they would take one look at me and walk in the opposite direction. A guy I thought was a friend who I had known for over 20 years met me in the isle of a store and promptly turned around and walked the other way.

So, yeah, people are stupid. But we have to deal with it. I does sort of sting the first time it happens, but things do happen that make up for it. The very first night I was home, all I had on was my blue prison shirt, some tattered jeans, and an old pair of sneakers----the clothes I wore when I was released earlier that day. An old acquaintence, a younger lady, saw me and said, "REW, is that you?" She then almost burst into tears and said, "We are happy to have you home."

Your son will find that people he thought were his good friends have deserted him, yet people he barely knew will greet him with handshakes and pats on the back. You never know with people.

I am so happy he is home---happy for you, for him, and your family. The oil job is a good job for him---good money and they don't care that he is a felon.

God Bless you all and if you ever really need me, send me a PM.

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buildingupslow - that sounds a little like adjudication withheld - when my son is off paper all his rights will be restored but he will have registration for life. You know that brings to mind something my son's judge said to him when he had a hearing to keep them from making him move (the sheriffs office created a park that did not exist).she said that when he is off paper the only thing making him follow the rules (living restrictions, no parks, etc.) is a county ordinance which is civil. I found that interesting - basically she was saying that once off paper an SO is not governed by the state rules for that. Food for thought anyway ...

I am so sorry for the hardships everyone is enduring

OMG sadsong44 - lifetime probation? that is absolutely insane!

Its been awhile since I have been on. My son is still in Mn but really having a difficult time finding work. He did get an apt which he is happy to be in but I will have to pay for everything until he can get a job. What really bothering me is he has fixed dates in his head and that's all he talks about and all those dates are the events that landed in in prison in the 1st place. I feel so bad I can't help him but he did go to mental health and is on medication so I was happy about that. I really think he has ptss some days are better than others. It breaks my heart that even my own family will not have him around except my sister. Why are people so cruel! They believe everything the newspaper printed so I printed out the court documents that stated all sexual charges were dismissed in court but it still doesn't make a difference to them or anyone else for that matter. I am hoping to be able to get him to sign up for disability but every time I bring it up he says stop trying to make me look crazy.
Anyways I was wondering if there are any programs that help sex offenders get jobs.

Tell him to try Goodwill Industries. My son was in a paid custodial training program and then in a course that helped him with a resume, how to ask for paper applications (since he has computer restrictions), how to dress for an interview, how to answer the criminal conviction question. If he hadn't just got accepted for a job when they called him some weeks after the class ended, they would have given him a job.

Anyone looking at MD, my son is on probation here and has had no problems. There are no residency restrictions, no neighborhood notifications, he gets verification checks twice/yr (he's a tier 2) and nobody bothers him (we're in a heavily suburban area). Also, there's restrictions on going to parks, church, etc. Just being on school/daycare properties(while on the registry) and Halloween restrictions while he's on probation.

I'm in Minnesota, and he is from and serving time in ND....he is planning on moving to Montana.

wow I found this website that I think everyone would like to have. A lot of good information here and finally a place trying to make a change. http://reformsexoffenderlaws.org/

@gemmy1

A really helpful site with info on one page is...

http://sexoffenderissues.blogspot.com/p/links.html?m=1

Lots of really useful info.

Here is more good information. After doing more research on this I wondered why aren't the police required to register. A need for reform !