I found a wonderful place in August of last year. I watched this spiral out of control and wrote to DS about it. I recieved the same canned response that I should just ignore. I've tried to. But it's venom spilled into all the other topics and we've lost good people because of it.
Why wasn't this taken care of in December when it compleatly boiled over. I feel like DS was the one that was using the ignore feature when we were all ignored then. Now we've lost an important member and nothing has been solved. As David said, this is sad.

This is very sad, ChronicIL was a great person that loved to help others. Basically because she disagreed the wrong way with others, she was banned? I have to agree with Tipper and Superduck and almost everyone else here, WRONG PERSON BANNED!!!!
celestialbaby23
Rebecca Gebo
Albion New York

I didn't have time to read everyones post, but I intend to. I've been looking for Erika,and being new,DUH, couldn't figure it out. I had to ask another group member. I'M SO GLAD I FOUND THIS POST!!!!! And you know, I'm not a very litterate person, so I just have one thing to say, Is this high school here people??? I thought I would be dealing with adults.

well i don't know much about this deal i have shared with ChronicIL and have read some of the other negative post. i do not have a side in this deal. this is my view i am a 33yr old ADULT these "rules of the road" are only needed because of some of the members, because for the most part the members act as ADULTS a site like this one should be able to police it's self. but when you have members that are not willing or able to police themselves you have conflict. well my opinion is if there is bullying or immature behavoir going on then it needs to be stopped. we are ADULTS and most of the post i've been in on this site are very helpful a productive. please do your homework and make the right decision in the matter. will pray for the right outcome and the ability to accept it.

Jessica I hope you read each and everyone of our pleas .ChronicIl was one of our strongest lengths in this group. Seriously if you and Ds would split them between you and only read a forth of them you could solve this problems quickly.
@ Lisa , that was awesome! Truely spoken from the heart.

Unfortunately, there are some real true people, the majority, that see something that the power doesn't. ChronicIL was a straight out real person.

I was always told to believe that if something doesn't make sense, someone is lying.

I can't see how someone can come across as a person full of manipulative rage, and then say they'll give somebody hugs and prayers.

I can't see that this group was great when I started to open up, around the middle of November, and now I might as well read from the anger management board, where I guess it's OK to say some off the wall things and it's understood.

If I were management here I would look at the big picture. Goodbye.
Sincerely,
David.

Lisa,
I want to thank you for saying what so many of us here could not find the right words to say, or just was afraid to say it in fear of being banned as well. I don't think anyone could say anything more. All we can do is stand by what you have said and support you. I am hoping that if we all stand together and not let this go, we will be heard! ChronicIL should be brought back. If she can be banned, then maybe we all should be because we all feel the same way that she did. She just had the nerve to say it out right. We have all heard the lies and have tried to make people see that they may need different help. We tried being supportive until it was obvious that our kindness was being abused. ChronicIL, we miss you very much and miss your wisdom, support, caring and understanding. We miss your jokes, your hugs, and your kindness.
DS, Please bring our much needed friend back. She did nothing wrong.
Thank you,
Rebecca Gebo,
New York

Is anyone from DS reading our posts?

Probably not. unless it is certain parties. The rest of us don't count.

Dear Members,

We are reading your responses and are evaluating the situation. However, we would like to remind all members that it is against the Rules of the Road to call out or attack other members in any form in public boards, and we had to remove several replies to this post as a result. Please note that not all abuse occurs on boards-- abuse also happens via Hugs, private messages, etc., and we may delete it before members have a chance to see it.

We do appreciate your feedback and your points of view, and will take them into consideration. As always, please report all abuse to the team and utilize the Ignore feature as opposed to resorting to antagonism.

Thank you,
TeamDS

DS...I too am asking that you please reconsider your decision. Erika should never have been banned.

IMO...you banned the wrong person! Did you ban any of the three that were instigating trouble?

I stand with the rest of my friends...beside chronicIL.

DS,

I totally agree with TIpper and Lisa. I want you to know that ChronicIL helped me greatly when I first joined this group and I have found nothing but honest and compassionate responses. Surely by the number of responses that DS has recd about this issue you can see that this is a positive mbr that is greatly needed in our group.

I also recd an email saying that I had been rptd as being abusive and I responded to the email asking about the example of abuse I had given out in a post and I have not gotten a response yet. I hope that someone is reviewing the entire post in my situation as well as all others, to ensure the content was not copied and pasted from another post. I have read some mbrs posts that state they read old posts and copy and paste to rpt abuse. I do not see how that can be a legitmate issue as it could have been pieced together from one or more posts.. This group has become a second home to me as I joined in Oct 2010 to another group due to a horrible life situation I was living thru at that time and stumbled upon this one by accident. It brings me education, compassion, and filled up an empty place with love in my heart, that I had not even known was there. I agree ppl should not be abused because this is a very soul baring group and I feel if we cannot be honest here, why bother with the group? We all have a difficult enough life dealing with our issues and we do not need all this additional drama. Please do the right thing and bring back ChronicIL..

Thanks for listening and please do not ban me :)

DS,
I am quite worried that good members are now going to live in fear that everything that they say and/or do will be misconstrued as abuse. I am sure that other members are getting a wonderful kick out of this. Don't you realize that there are some members that seem to be making it they're life's mission to make the people that they disagree with, banned, scared that they will be banned, scared to even give advice that others may not want to hear! How is that a support group? Do AA members go in to they're meetings scared to tell the truth? No. How would a sponsor do they're job if they were afraid to tell the other member the truth? They wouldn't. How is it helpful to people if they are not told the truth, even if they don't want to hear it? I have the answer to that question, its not! I was sitting in the hospital, extremely mad because I know that there are people that are just loving the fact that the rest of us are upset. As far as I am concerned, that is not supportive, helpful or anything that a support group should be. It is the exact opposite. It is causing us MORE pain, MORE grief, MORE sadness, MORE frustration, and I am VERY upset to see my friends that I care about being put through this. Especially for such an outrageous reason.
Please do the right thing, and make the right choices about banning people. I really think that DS needs to look a little more closely to the people here. Before a lot of good people up and leave because they are afraid of saying something to someone that may disagree with them, and then being banned themselves.
Rebecca from New York

I have been staying out of this and not replying to the threads that i considerd negitive, unproductive and mean since my first post.

i have been reading what has been going on and am fully aware of the situation and have bit my tounge several time.

Instead of hitting ignore or abuse i just didn't reply to the posts.

Untill now. If the person who got banned really needed to get banned then a few other members should be banned too.

Since you haven't banned those people i think there was no need to banned the people that have been banned.

Are you understanding what i'm saying?

People have done way worse than what chronicIL did and they are still here.

She has the knowlege and strength that has seen me thro some hard times. I had a problem the other day that i know she could've helped me with. We need her back.

please reconsider

sincerly
rachel

Exactly Rachel, it's uneven handling of the situation. What was it my mom always said.... What's good for the goose should be good for the gander.
At this point I'd rather see Erika back first and then a real look at how things are getting out of hand in the first place.

DS, am glad you posted to let us know you are looking into it further. I started to get odd thoughts that maybe the reason the other person wasn't warned or banned might be that some of the drug seeking stuff was being monitored for other reasons. It is a public forum and anyone can be watched and reported to bigger guns than just the DS Team.