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Working on working it out

Rman
Rman
I think I'm going to try and work it out with my wife. I'm not sure how I'm going to achieve this goal, but I do know that I am not healing and this site is not working. So I guess I will just be proactive and take matters into my own hands.
deleted_user
deleted_user
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deleted_user
deleted_user
Wait! You have posted this before about working things out with her. If THIS IS FOR REAL, I hope you both can go to marriage counseling and find a way to make things work. You deserve to be happy.
deleted_user
deleted_user
As Yoda says "Do or do not - there is no try."

Good luck - you deserve so much happiness!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
i dont know you all that well so i dont know when your being serious or joking. if your serious i wish you all the best and hope you can be happy with whatever outcome may come. you deserve to have what makes you happy.
llmt
llmt
Wish you all the luck and I am jealous. I too find nothing is working and you and I have the same living arrangements. I don't think I can work on it when another woman is still in the pix.
deleted_user
deleted_user
When you work it out with your Wife, use a very sharp knife, some of those organs are tough to work out on their own....





I'm kidding dammit! I didn't use a sharp knife, I used a dull spoon!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Rman, I wish you the best of luck. I'm sorry this site isn't working for you. I hear ya on the healing thing. Many hugs to you. ((((Baybay))))
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good luck with whatever course you decide to take.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Dude, I thought you were getting a constant flow of bootie call.

The site worked.
deleted_user
deleted_user
*has much advice/suggestions but will keep it all to herself*

*suggests RMAN searches his name up, looks in B&D forum and re-reads all previous issues/concerns*.
Rman
Rman
I searched my name and all I found were taco threads...wtf have I been doing for the past year?
Rman
Rman
I think I'm just mad at myself for letting my life become so stagnant. I mean, I'm not here, nor there...I'm just stuck in the middle. I'm not leaving my house and neither is she...it's a standoff. There has been no infidelity, yet there has always been arguing. It has become a roommate arrangement and I'm getting tired of the bs.

I also see many people here, who have become stuck. They are on DS, just like me, just killing time. They have stopped talking about the real issue that originally brought them to DS. Sure the OT threads are fun and helps us get our minds off the day to day crap, but how is that really helping us to heal?

I don't know, I'm just thinking a lot today, so I'll stop now.
deleted_user
deleted_user
That was the most profound thing you have written.
deleted_user
deleted_user
good luck to you rman...i hope it works for you...
Rman
Rman
Jaken...that would be just a little gay (not that there is anything wrong with that).