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Does anyone else feel this way? If you do, I would really love to hear about it because I feel as though I am being picky or too judgemental before a relationship even starts....
So after leaving my ex, I said to myself I need to have a man with a few criteria for my next partner - those criteria were based on the downfalls in my past relationship - they are:
needs to be independent
needs to be able to drive
needs to have career ambition
And, I always have this criteria:
needs to be at least as tall as I am.
Now that the dating field has opened up, there is a really nice sounding guy, and I am confused, he meets the first set of criterias, but not the second - I don't know why I am hesitant, but I am - maybe it's just nerves.
Does anyone else have criteria like this for a new mate, if so, I would love to hear about it.
THanks
So after leaving my ex, I said to myself I need to have a man with a few criteria for my next partner - those criteria were based on the downfalls in my past relationship - they are:
needs to be independent
needs to be able to drive
needs to have career ambition
And, I always have this criteria:
needs to be at least as tall as I am.
Now that the dating field has opened up, there is a really nice sounding guy, and I am confused, he meets the first set of criterias, but not the second - I don't know why I am hesitant, but I am - maybe it's just nerves.
Does anyone else have criteria like this for a new mate, if so, I would love to hear about it.
THanks
2. unselfish
3. HONESTY
4. Must be able to hold down a job, and be independant.
5. romantic(is that a real thing???)
6. Loyalty
7. not flirtatious towards other women.
8. Must not have friends of the opposite sex that I am not also friends with, or at least have met and can get along with.
9. Sensative towards my feelings.
and last but not leat the most important thing....
HONESTY, and trustworthy.
It doesn't hurt to do some soul searchig and found out why we pick partners who can't live up to the commitment.
Criteria like born-again or specific religion are great, though. I don't ever want to date someoen again who is trying to change my religion. For God's sake, don't wait until you're falling for someone and then try to convert them. I found out, you can't even convert a non-outdoorsy type to a camper, so better keep that on the list too.
One thing to keep in mind is the more specific the criteria the harder it is going to be to find someone to meet it. But it's important to know what your priorities are and which things are deal-breakers.
Most emotionally unhealthy people either have no idea what they are looking for or their criteria is too shallow. For example, I want a rich man, period. You may find a rich man but he could be a SOB in every aspect of life.
It is important to do some soul-searching and I think that making a list like this is exactly that. A way to figure out what was missing from our last relationship and hone in what we really need in our next.
a Pulse would be nice!