My 2 cents....just for you!!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MG-0BWLybIQ

Yeah. Some chick I've been married to for like ten years, or something, and she popped out a few humans from her vagina too...wtf?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12QnNEYNGr4

this goes with the wanting your wife back thread? You find yourself married to a stranger? Ok, I get it. It would be easier if it were Mrs. Butterworth tho.

Well, there was an intervention a week or two ago (I forget days run together when your a cat). She seems to be ok with that sort of stuff. How about another intervention. It seems like she wants you to be the leader of the home. Head of the household. She wants you to take charge of the it all...so do it. Be a man and take charge.

At least this is what I can gather based only on stuff you have posted here and there.

Sorry sweetie... I thought you were trying to make it work... I really need to read on here more :(

How to get out? pack up your kids, take them to your parents, and go home and tell her you want out. Hell, at this point write her a letter, give her a call... I wish I had better advice, mine was easier since I don't have any kids... Call Z... she's very good at hand holding... she'll even practice what you're going to say. (over and over and over and you'll still manage to goof it up... well at least I did)

rbaby, know we're here for you... No matter what she says or does, we got your back.

talk to a lawyer.....find out what steps you should take should you want to proceed with filing. They will let you know what you should do first.
Then decide whether you want to follow that advice or not.
Making the first move......not easy. But for your own sanity and health......you need to.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ii9CY6GKYu4

cuz football's a great metaphor too

Rmyth you can PM me anytime you like. I'd be more than happy to discuss my personal experiences in that arena.

First off! My JETS won! ok just had to start off with that...

here is the issue...you are saying you want to leave but guess what...you are still in love with her...so we are at an impasse...

the only thing I can say is this...you have a lot invested, humans out of her vajayjay...and all that (btw beautiful kids-FB pics)...

so continue to try...whatever it takes...do something different...don't know what...if I knew I'd have my own talkshow like Dr. Phil...

anywho...wish I could offer more...

I am a man...and I am on a horse (old spice)...

not so shiny nickel :(

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AGt5f70K02Q

Need more info, sorry...gotta help me help you dude

well, i waited and saw what happened and eventually he left. It took about two years, though, and i'm not really endorsing that method... good luck with whatever you decide. I thought you guys were working on the marriage, but i may be behind in DS news as i haven't been on here much. Murder = jail for life....don't choose that one. ha.

Hey Rman..I'm not sure of your situation, but I will tell you what happened to me. I thought my marriage was really good. My husband came right out and told me that he wasn't happy. Said he had been pretending for a while. I was devastated, but on the other hand...I would rather know then to keep thinking things were great. So, I feel that you should just come out and tell her that you're not happy. Try to explain what you are feeling and why. You can't help it if you're not happy where you are. We can't make ourselves love someone. My husband still loves me but is not in-love with me...sounds like high school to me, but regardless.. it's better to be honest and try to do things in a civil manner, then to keep living life in a situation that brings you down everyday. Think about how you feel and why and be prepared to answer questions. My husband didn't want to tell me cause he didn't want to hurt me...yeah, right. Anyway, all I can say is that being honest with yourself, and honest with her is the first step. Hopefully she will understand, although she may be hurt. I am devastated, but at least I know the truth now. It's hard, but I can move on and learn to live again and hopefully find happiness again.

What about starting with separate bank accounts and take her name off all your credit cards and take your name off all of hers. You be in charge of paying all the bills. Once you're on your own, you're going to have to be in charge of everything. so start now.

If she wants money, you can dish it out to her. Kind of like an allowance. OR she can go get a job. Maybe she'll be a bit more agreeable if she doesn't have complete freedom to take all your money.

Have you guys gone to counseling at all? Have you gone on your own?
You know it's time to shit or get off the pot....Make a move Rman, You've got to start somewhere. It's not going to be easy, and It probably won't run smoothly, but it's time... You know it is..
Take a deep breath and get started....
(((rman)))

I cant imagine living in that situation for long, maybe you should suggest a trial separation, maybe some sort of jolt to the relationship will make you either want to work it out or appreciate the sense of relief that you will most certainly feel, as it must be like purgatory....I am so sorry that you seem so stuck....I cant imagine anything more painful than continued rejection, I simply couldnt take it I would have to leave, if I felt unwanted.
(((hugs)))

My wife isn't in love with me anymore. But, I'm a man. And I'm sexy and dig chicks and shit...sup...