He should be the one on DS asking for help. It's already hard enough for the person concerned to express emotions and other feelings without having another interpreting them. If he truly needs to know what went wrong in his second marriage (and the first one), he needs to see a therapist. That's probably the only way he'll be able to break this cycle. If not he'll be divorcing in another 5 years. It certainly not a 25 year old pregnant woman with no training, who had every interest in keeping him around, who will do the trick. If he can't confide in Rock and be honest, I don't hink they will be together in a few months. The fact that there is a baby involved won't change that possibility. It sad, I grant you that...

BTW, I'm not wearing any underwear....

I was just contemplating how many children he has fathered with first, second, and soon to be third wife. Do they get to draw straws to see who gets to keep daddy? Ugh.

There is nothing you could do or say to help him. He needs to figure it out on his own. Maybe you could suggest he see a counselor.

Alright, now you admitted in a reply to another thread that you were the "mistress." You also say that he was telling his wife that the two of you were just friends.

I'm still not going to change my answers. And I'm still going to leave out any feelings about how you came to be with this man. But I will agree VERY strongly with Noor. This man is still in love with his wife. You will be a thing of the past once he either goes back to her or moves on to his next fling. Or by chance he'll marry you out of obligation for the baby. Well, you better watch out for his next "friend." Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I know it's true.. My stbx also had a "Friend" and his wife before him.. he had a "friend" too. Wasn't me, cause I'm not a whore, but you know whatever.

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Reply #5 - 12/26/08 10:34pm
" i was on the other side of this and i knew the wife- i was the mistress and now the wife is an soon to be ex wife and we are still together= he always told her- we were just "buddies". so don't buy that ... emotional pain is deffinitely worse than anything physical i agree- and one thing i learned is life is not a game and u can't play around with it or ur heart- so don't let him do this to you- u say its me or her- like my situation.... she told him just that- he picked me and says he loves me- but he misses her.....


I'm going to change the answer. What your doing wrong is banging someone else's husband and the distance is probably him knowing and realizing what a total peace of sh*t he is. Just saying. Bet he told her he 'loved' her too. And I bet she's wondering why she believed it.

PS. I took my panties off for this one Noor.

She is probably sitting on some website saying how he tells her he Loves her, and basically he just needs "Time" to work on him... Just my thoughts, its usually what they do.

Oh and space.. I flippen forgot space.. Someone smack me for not remembering space..

Good girl Peace! I have decided to take down the underwear industry...just because!

On a more serious not.... I have seen many mistresses over the past year come here and be in "our face" with their version of the story. All of them come here out of fear. They know they are losing the battle and this is their last stand. i think the rate of success for second marraiges coming out of infidelity is less than 5% over five years... Sex is not love. Sex is not intimacy. Sex is not a relationship or a marriage. It takes way more than sex to make a marriage. At least if people are going to screw they need to wear protection. I'm still sad for that baby.

Kells......do I need to send you some new underwear?

Yes please... I lost mine somewhere around number 30, but I was holding back as much as possible..

Although, I could just go underwearless like Noor... No, no.. I need the big girl panties.

Would you prefer some cute little flowers or the zebra striped?

My big girl panties went out of the window with my x. If it is not cute,sexy, and tiny, I don't wear any! :)

Zebra will make me look fat.. I'll go with the flower pair... You always look out for me!

Giggle.. you know what's funny. Is when my stbx had his "friend".. I was stupid and thought they were really friends. Infact, last year I bought her VDay present and helped her find her son a Wii for Christmas.. Aren't I super fantastic?!?!?! All the time, she was fucking with my husband.. I love the OW.. she's super great! I'm sure his wife just loves you!