Ouch.. that was like a bee sting...

Okay, I read a couple of your last journals. You moved out last month and obviously have moved back in. At one point he went back to some other woman. He dumped you on the 22nd of this month. And you are saying your life isn't worth living without him. Way too much drama going on here in such a short time frame.

I don't know if you were cheating with him during his marriage, so I'm not going to assume anything because your answer was not specific. But I am going to be blunt because there is a child involved now. Stop worrying about him. You've got issues YOU need to deal with. Everything you do now has to be what's best for the baby and you. Note I put the baby before you. This man isn't just dealing with his divorce, he still has feelings for his ex. Enough to leave you just a short time ago for her. Please seek counseling for yourself to figure out why you are letting yourself be treated like this.

Hurry Kelly,, it is getting cold!

I rated Queens response as helpful cause she took the time to read journals. AND she kept the panties up like the queen that she is...

Kelly, my panties are falling and my mouth isn't numb enough to prevent me from talking.

Well who am I to hold you back? I mean you are like super cool.. and you know how to make good brownies... You shared the recipe with me.. I'm just saying...

It's really not your place to "help him", especially if you are the reason why he left his second wife. He needs someone who is objective like a therapist. Your priority should be your child since you are pregnant. The likelihood that your present bf will be in your life 6 months from now is pretty slim. I suggest that you look out for yourself. He could go back to his wife or drop you both like hot potatoes... My take onthis is that he will be with someone else ina few months. The sad thing is that a child will once again pay for the mistakes of others.

Let me just say this. Regardless of how she got here, she is in definite pain. We can't go back and change what she POSSIBLY did (remember her answer was kind of vague). There is a baby involved in this mess and I'd like to think that all of us here that are responding are mothers and we should consider that in our answers.

And for the record, I am wearing my new victoria secret underwear that santa gave me!

You're right Queen. I just feel like if she is still with him, she's not in a break up or a divorce. I personally feel that if you are the OW who came some what between a marriage failing that you should find another place other then the BU/D... Just my thoughts, at least.

VS, look at you.... those aren't big girl panties then...

For the record, I do feel bad for the kiddo. It's a shame as Noor said.

What you are doing wrong as you asked above, is that this 'guy' soon to be TWICE divorced as you put it is divorcing his wife for you 'however your not the only reason' and has fathered a child with you but is going, and coming back, and so on, is that you aren't RUNNING! Why would you want a man who acts like this? To anyone? Even if he was perfect with you doesn't negate the facts.....
Okay, I'm better, pulling big girl panties back on.

Here, here Queen!

There isn't really anything you can do to help him, all you can do is be there when he needs you, but don't push for him to talk about it.

I'm afraid that your relationship is not off to the most solid of starts. I looked at your journal and it would seem to me that this man isn't sure what he wants. If he left his wife for another woman, there's nothing to say he won't do it again.

You should focus on taking care of your baby and yourself.

Well Kells, she wants to help HIM through a divorce. Only problem is Rock, everyone here can tell you that he is the one that has to ask for help.

Oh... I never thought about it that way... Sigh, I'm always last to catch up... I just thought of a joke.. ha ha...

Why doesn't anyone help people to not get divorced?

Well when you're carrying their baby, it's hard to not encourage it... I'm just saying...