I think some people need to reduce their face appearance on here from 24 /7 to much less, not newbies, who are in pain, not people like Z who give and give and give. People who start to feel, like they are not appretiated for their input. I did it, I feel much better).

Of course, I miss mentioned people on here, I miss DS, but I did feel stuck. In those times, when I am signed in, I would love to see all of them back!

I have read almost all of the responses to this thread and it really has pissed me off. I made the thread for MY benefit, to express how I feel, maybe I SHOULD have made it a journal entry as NOT to "upset" those that are holier than thou. You may or may not agree with me on those that were banned/suspended or if you even liked them...not my f'in concern. What is my concern is that they were MY support system, as well as many others on here. I am in no way negating any other individuals on here that have helped me or continue to help me...you all are wonderful. I am just sad that these individuals who helped many cannot do that or the newbies will never get to know their methods of love. So basically, if this thread has offended anyone, so be it, you have the right NOT to include yourself in it.

I miss our friends, their comments, their support...

Nova was one of my first friends here who helped pick my dumb ass off the mat (along with a list of others, that is too long to name here).

She is a gem.

He'd stick his middle finger up at me because he thinks I'm #1.

That's why.

Duh.

Well, llmt, sorry you're missing your friends. I know of one, I miss too, but have talked with her, so not that much!

@ Vac:
gotta ditto you,
No one missed me, misses me, or will in the future. I'm sure a few do know me from previous postings, oh, maybe over 9 months ago...

But I pretty much gave up! I felt totally invisible here! Got very little support, and thought hmmm.....interesting.......
gotta be in a clique, or I simply don't count!

Saw some drama, as I came back and read, and told a very specific person here:
Too many people are insecure! They don't like your personality, cuz it's too magnetic, and draws so many people. A few are very insecure women, who want to compete, and won't win! Lotta competition, drama, immaturity,........

so lol

now I'm glad that I was an invisible person here, basically just a social out cast, I guess you can say, lol. funny, in a couple other rooms, I get some very nice feedback, and developed some nice friendship.

Lesson for All:
If this room is not for you, ya don't have to stay! Try a few others, as there are countless others which could apply to you! Don't stay where you are unwelcome, and don't let someone's lack of response determine who you are, or what you are. Don't let their negative response determine anything else about you, except their own issues.

A few folks in this room are friends of mine, but only one calls me, and is tight. A couple seem interested in some things they write, but don't follow up! Oh well! So I say, take the good, be happy for that!

Toss out the bad, and move one, cuz otherwise it just perpetuates more BS.

And the reason I'm pretty damned certain, that this has broken out in the past, present, and future is some folks must belong to a certain clique, and a certain faction, then the polar side emerges with their clicks. They love the drama, the excitement, and many feel they must keep their allegiance to their friend, and assist with verbal abuse, jokes, utube clips, insinuations, attacks, personal hiddlen messages after they bond via email, im, phone, skype, text, whatever way they can, bond a bit more, and y ou have the makings of the Hatfields and McCoys. Everybody has got to be right, nobody wants to be happy, and just move on! We all have encountered this with women in real life. Most guys, will fight, or just get over it, whereas a lot of women gotta prove their point, and have the last word! lol

So llmt, yup miss a couple who are gone, but only a couple, cuz don't know most of them, tried to but.....no responses, I guess I was invisible that day, and the next , and the next....

So sometimes invisible and rejection is good! I got to avoid this nonsense this round.
I've seen it time and time again, also going on in another room, at least, but I try to stay out of it. I refuse to join a clique, at the expense of anyone else. I've learned from work, cuz I refused to agree with a few co-workers as they conspired to "get rid of" a specific coordinator, that I was their next target, lol!

When this particular clique wanted me in, to use me, then they were extra nice, manipulative, and thought their coy behavior was going to get their needs met. If they had no agenda that week, then I wasn't really in the clique that week. lol (not saying anything about anyone here, as I really don't know enough folks here, or enough facts).

Some clicks in my real life experiences, were a bit too self-serving. If I meet someone, I make my own decisions, and don't wanna hear crap about them from anyone else (proves a hidden agenda). Oftentimes, for this exact reason, I champion the underdog. Ya just get tired how many people want to control and manipulate your thoughts, your perceptions of others, and your decision to befriend them or de-friend them. lol

At some point, it just gets silly!
Just my 2cents, and it's about time, I spoke up!!!!

Wow, I agree blondgal! Well said.

Thanks bridget, Marc, and llmt!

Here's an example of how this works.

You get one person to say well said, on the post.
You get one person who sends ya a hug and says "well said".
You get one person who sends ya an email, and comments.

So the real problem is:
there are so many modes, which are hidden, which can easily fall into ones' hidden agenda. Not all reading here to the post, are aware of the many extras, and those "extras" pick up speed, and develop a life of their own, and oila,

there you have it!

So, on that lovely note, gonna get out to my garden, be productive, and plant a couple hostas, where they belong.....

Cuz at least there.....I can see with my own eyes...what is true! lol

Have a great Labor Day all, and don't labor too much!
Life is short, take the good, and knock the bad out!
You have the choice, you are in control!

@ DAB

I'll never stick my middle finger up at you!
If I met you, you get one good smack on your forehead!
Oh not a hit, but a mwah, kiss, a motherly kiss. okay foks

Don't start a new deal here!
But DAB, Kudos to you, you have been one consistent person, as I see it, just my perspective, mind you!

I agree with blondgal. Yes there were some good people with great advice banned, but also due to those strong personalities many people who also gave or give good advice don't stick around. I have witnessed on many occasion someone post something as a comment and it totally get ignored, but one of the other regulars would say basically the same thing later in the comment and he/she would get applauded for such great insight.

Things have died down a bit, but I still see those coming for help getting responses and responding back with a "thanks, thank you all for listening I feel better." Isn't that the main purpose here? To reach out and help?

I have held off on commenting on all this mess (for lack of a better word) because I have not been privy to every PM or IM nor have I read every single thing posted, plus the banned people are not able to speak for themselves so anything said by their nonbanned DS friends is hearsay in my opinion. I just hope that when the banned people return things don't get stirred up more. I like coming here to help, but I don't like having to search though non-divorce and breakup stuff to find those who need it.

@ Misred

LOL I am so in agreement with you. Some non-regulars say something, and notta

a "regular" says something, and sparks all kinds of attention. Funny, same words, but a different person....

and it makes all the difference in the world! lol

Those beloved banned members are wonderful people, but they are not Gods and they don't make the world go 'round. This board isn't going to curl up and die without them. The newbies today will grow up to be helpers for tomorrows newbies, this is how it started and this is how it will go on.

I am sorry folks here are missing their friends too.

Hi DML how are you today. I am really wondering who you are. It would be nice to know who I am reporting and will soon not be here. So would you please let me know. Thanks.