Nobody misses me :(

You are not gone, Vac.. you are still here...

Vac.... where the Hell IS HE???
OMG!

Is that better Vac?

i do not see why praising some devalues the many.

When people are thrown out of a group, when they are loved and missed, when loyalty and fair play demand confrontation, I am certain that the intent is not to devalue all those remaining. Rather, the idea is to remind the community that what has been unfairly applied to the few may also extend to any others.

Recently I became so caught up in making that point that I hurt a friend's feelings while defending the issue. That was not my intention or my true feeling, but I got sorta caught up in a fuck you moment.
I can only say that my personal situation as demanded not only a combative posture from me in regards to my opponent/ex,but also against my own hirelings, who were determined to keep me in court for decades to their benefit.


I believe that unless people here are trolling offensively, that they should leave in their own time. Period. i do not believe that some people close to me should have been thrown out of here for any length of time.
I am not suggesting that others here are not important, that they do not offer quality support, that their intentions are not good. I have never said anything like that, but I am seeing some pretty odd interpretations of some other comments here, so just wanted to point that out.

For me bottom line: some massive unfairness is going on here. i remain concerned. I believe it is my duty in this community to raise those concerns. I will continue to do so.

I've heard that people have reported me (no proof...and I won't name names). So is that why I've been reported? for trolling offensively?


DS is owned by a corporation. It's their playground, and their rules. I wish they would make the rules more clear, but that's their choice too. None of this is how I would run things, but then I have never wanted to be in Any position of authority around here. And way back when the whole CL thing started, I had a number of people asking me to do it. I admire ChiTown greatly for wanting that role.

I agree Patti, the Bear has a thankless job. We have had some good discussions lately. He was able to set me straight on some assumptions on my part that were wrong.

To the 'other B52..... I understand the occasional FU. That's not a problem.

I will say again, that support comes in all sorts of packages. Youtube videos, hugs, etc. I agree that saying "I learned the most from the hard things" does not discount the value of everything else.

Everyone should have the right to speak here. Even the ones who are stuck.

I have never reported anyone. I find the idea offensive with the exception of strangers who show up here, making comments that stun and hurt people going through divorce. I have objected in this forum when that has happened, and I assumed the cl's have dealt with it.

Since you have explained why there is no explanation for the departure of others who are members here and were not trolls, i can only assume you are implying that I reported you (WRONG) and that you consider yourself a troll, or that you think I have a clue how or why things happen here (WRONG). FWIW I do NOT consider you a troll. Why would I?

That has been my point for several days, that people are gone, and I am clueless as to why.

Regardless of the sense I have that you are picking a pointless fight with me Patti, I am more than unhappy to hear you have been reported.

Pick a fight? I have no desire to fight with anyone.

Heck, since this has all blown up. I've even told a half dozen people that if they wanted to drop me from their friends lists, I wouldn't care and would completely understand.

With all of the battle lines being drawn, I'd rather stand by myself than pull anyone else into this mess.

Me: I'm OK. I have school, and studying, and more studying. I'm barely on here, and mostly listening to lectures or researching stuff. I take study breaks after 30 min to give myself a 5 min break, then I'm back to it again. I almost never chat with anyone.

I wish you, Boyd, and everyone else well. Now, I'd better get some sleep, because I'm going to be helping 60 Alzheimer's patients to the bathroom or changing them in bed, every 2 hours, starting at 11 tonight.

Geez, I had no idea all this crap was going down. This sucks!!!

Yes Nancy.. it sucks, but it is what it is....

This whole thing will likely get worse before it gets better. If you want to drop me as a friend Nancy, please go ahead and do so. I never have, and never will, want to drag anyone else into this.

I'll say again, that I've read implied death threats. They may have been joking, but they've crossed the line way too much. I've chosen to stand up for what I've seen, but I know quite a few people who've decided to stay completely out of it, or leave DS.

I saw Joy's real name put up here on the Main boards. DS yanked it quickly. It happened at least twice that I know of. (So how many more that I never saw?) If she tried to look up IP addresses.....then I don't blame her.

DS knows what they've pulled. I wish they'd speak up about it all, but I know they never will.

Why is it ok for you to use names on the threads and not ok for others? Hmmmm? Why is it ok for you to throw out accusations? You have something to say.. spill it...