And that's why I told you not to listen to one word he says

He will LIE and threaten and manipulate.

Block him and get an attorney.

Do not count your chickens, its all in the
Financials and in the final decree. I had
A real fight on my hands with my ex. I
Was working so i was okay during that
Time and both of us paid for the lawyers
Out of joint money along with our bills.

And i stayed with the house against his
Will. I told him no dating he is a married
Man. He moved over to his mothers in a
Big huff. TFB. HUGS

Thank you, Grace, I don't mean to be a bother. I just don't know what to do or who to ask. My friends are tired of me and I really don't have anyone to talk to. I think it's in his name but he could have put it in the girlfriends' name.

I haven't counted anything, Miranda. I know he is going to fight me because he makes so much money and doesn't want to give it to me. Thank you for the hug, I definitely need it. My mom just asked me did I have money and I had to tell her no. She said she would send me a money order. I am suppose to be helping her not her helping me. I can't stop crying

No bother, but his finances will come out in the discoveries, and if he thinks transferring the house to his girlfriend for a dollar and buying it back after the divorce will work he's wrong.

The courts are wise to that garbage and have been for a LONG time

The judge almost put my ex in jail for trying it. It's perjury

Just explain all this to your lawyer. They'll know what to do.

Just stay strong. You'll be glad you did trust me.

Cry all you want. Just take care of yourself legally

We've all been there. It sucks, but we got through

It really is darkest before the dawn, but the light is coming.

While we were talking, I was texting a lawyer, hopefully they will contact me next week. It took everything I had to send the kids to him and then to find out he wanted them to meet the girlfriend and her kids, I feel stupid. I gave him half my life that I can't get back, I feel so useless.

I will take your word for it, doesn't feel like it at all.

Shop around for a lawyer, there are bad ones out
There. Talk to friends that got good settlements.
Some people get screwed to the wall and get
Next to Nothing even after years of being married.

Debt and children are a big part of the equation and
Then comes assets since the marriage. Sometimes
People with children have nothing but a mound of
Debt and future costs so there is not much to split
Or get your hands on. Many ex's want 50-50 custody
So not having to pay child support. I ended up with
A 1/3 of the alimony my lawyer requested. That was
My decision he did not want to pay any.

We could have gone before the judge and let him
decide. That is not always the best option. We came
To terms 2 weeks before court date. He fought to the
Bitter end and i was being fair and equitable. We have
No children, older and married 30 years. HUGS

We don't have that much debt, he is still paying for my car. A Macy's credit card, we were in debt with credit cards but got out. I don't think he wants custody of my son since he is headed to college next year. I want him to pay custodial support, he owes me that and child support. But he is going to say that he gives him money monthly because he does. Do I still fight for child support?

Never mind what he's going to say

Write that down on things to ask your lawyer. S/he'll be able to answer these questions because as Miranda points out all states are different.

Again, never mind what he says. If the law says differently, he's in for a rude awakening.

Get used to saying the following "I couldn't possibly care less about your opinion. Take it up with my attorney"

Many times they wait to make their move
When the children are a certain age, some
Will come on with answers but like i say
Every state is different too, so keep that in
Mind.

Get what you are legally owed, he might
Have been planning this for awhile. I think
My ex was. We never found any hidden
Money or assets.

Many checked out spouses were disconnected
Emotionally long before they made their Move.
Their decision was made long ago, so beware
Of his intents. HUGS

Yes, beware, beware, beware.

Yeah, I have to put his feelings aside and you're right, never mind what he's going to say. It's a mindset, I never wanted to be this person that has to have an attorney speak for me.

I was shocked at what a dishonest, out for himself, lying f*cker of a human being my ex turned into during the divorce. Absolutely shocked. He would have left me without a dime after 25 years if he could have.

You'll be very grateful you retained that attorney.