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I finally found out the truth.

linny5227
linny5227

I am so angry right now. He was over trying to sell our car that had broken down in January. As he was outside, his phone went off. It was of course this girl he said was just a "friend." I got curious and decided to look at their texts. This is of course what I saw. When confronted about it he said that if started after we broke up (2 weeks ago mind you.) We were together 7 years and set to be married in October. Even if he did wait till we officially broke up, how do you go from friends to "I love you babe" in 2 weeks? She of course has a bf and I passed the info along to him. Because of this, now I'm the bad guy again and he is nowhere in the wrong  I hate him so much and feel like a fool for staying with him 7 years and giving him chance after chance and loving him with all my heart. I fear that I will never be able to trust another guy after this and that he has ruined a chance for a truly happy relationship for me. 409719c15e67fbea5993d0b87dbe54edafde98bc.png

linny5227
linny5227
I'm just so angry and hurt and because of it I slept horribly last night. I kept seeing the messages over and over in my mind. This does signify an end, however. It shows that he truly has no more feelings left for me and because of that I can't be wasting any more time on him.
sjs777
sjs777
believe in you and start to do things just for you - it sets the stage for moving forward, and may just leave him thinking he lost the new you, better than the one he knew when you first met
JM84
JM84
It doesn't matter what happens to him. Just what happens with you.

You want to change yourself - well, change yourself into someone you just absolutely love! It won't matter what he thinks or does.

The best love will happen when you love yourself. If you are looking for someone to 'complete you,' you are in for a miserable time. (Unless that someone is Jesus, and that's a whole other blog.)
You make you happy. When you do, then you can find someone that you can make even more 'happy' happen. Don't bother looking for someone until then.. You can date, just nothing serious. You won't know what the future you is going to be, not exactly; so how can you play matchmaker for her? Wait until you are happy with yourself, then you will be able to find someone that fits with you - the you - you want to be.
someday01
someday01
This day Too shall Pass.
mylifetoday
mylifetoday
I trust everyone until I have reason not to. I do admit that my gut is always right.

Take your time, enjoy being single, think back of the person you were before him and what you loved to do. Find a passion and never give it up for anyone. My passion is music and that's what really helps me get through the tough times.
ripped_my_heartout
ripped_my_heartout
The moment you find out your spouse is cheating can be devastating yet for me...also relieving. I was lead to believe I was going crazy for even thinking she was cheating. Well, she was, lots of them. I knew something was wrong for along time. My gut was right. Betrayed and very painful to go through. 22 years together down the drain. One day I'll make sure this negative turns into a positive. I will be happy. We all here will be happy.
Stay strong. -HUGS-
linny5227
linny5227
@ChelseaLeigh I am getting to that place. Finally seeing it for what it was opened my eyes to the fact it had nothing to do with me, but instead the person he is. I am ready to move on and be happy now.
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
I think the same about my ex only it was longer relationship . I feel ruined and can't really explain it to others. I am sorry. But yes 2 weeks is insanely fast.
bees2000
bees2000
My ex did the same thing. He married her, but he divorced her quickly. Even though it will hurt, your life may improve. God bless.
girlonfire
girlonfire
linny, I just had something similar happen to me, so I can completely relate. I finally blocked him from Facebook and my phone, so I wouldn't be upset or anxious if I didn't hear from him. He has called me back in the past before, so I'm trying to avoid any of that. It's sad, but at least this way I can think that maybe he's regretting his decision. Really, it's the only way for me to move on. I'm constantly reaching out to people, because I can't stand the pain....I'm just trying to take care of myself by sleeping enough and eating well. Today is only the second day.
linny5227
linny5227
It's just so hard isn't it? The feeling of being replaced is probably the worst. It's hard because you had it in your head that you were potentially going to spend the rest of your life with someone and then it ends so ubruptly. You can't imagine moving on so fast yourself but then they do and it kills you inside. :(
Tiff123
Tiff123
Hello, I am sorry you are going through this. I know it is hard, but you can get through this. Have you considered talking with someone to help you get through this? Praying for you.
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