I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. Honestly, the best thing to do is to cut off all ties. It’s hard to do but if you can go 2 months with no calls, text, talking or seeing each other, it will make it so much easier to move on. It won’t be easy but it will definitely help you heal. Best of luck.

Let go and grieve the loss. Focus on you and get to know yourself. Its all a process, but you can't heal and move on if you never even start the process. Its not easy. Im not telling you to do anything that I haven't had to do my own self. Its easier said than done and it all sounds cliche, but its true. Look deep inside and find your self. Plus, ask your self what I have already asked myself more than once. Aren't you worth more than to waste emotions, thoughts, feelings, time, and energy on someone that doesn't even want you? Find somebody that does.

So sorry you are going through this. It is really tough. It does seem that the other person has moved on and is not interested in getting back together, so you should let that hope go. Maybe reflect back honestly and objectively on the relationship, you said it was "perfect", but obviously not, or you two would still be together. Sometimes relationships just don't work out. The two people aren't compatible. Probably nothing you did. As the other replies said, you are going to have to move on. Try to put yourself out there, talk to other people, stay active socially. It's tough and I feel for you. Best wishes.

It's the toughest thing to go through and I speak from experience. The above advice is excellent. The best thing you can do is cut off all Communications and go on with your life. If there is a chance then the other person will contact you but that's usually not the case. You will get through this and be happy again. This I can promise you. Just love yourself and good things will come.

Thanks for all your responses... breaking off all connection is what I hear is recommended... don't know if I can....thanks again

Yes, you can.

Keep very busy. Find other things to do such as hobbies, work, family, friends, volunteer, do projects around the house... anything. Keep your mind busy.

Delete her number, her social media, e-mail address, etc. All contact - deleted.

Question - Reading your original post again. You have been texting her weekly? For how long? Does she reply back?

she is terrible at responding.... a few days ….drives me nuts

I’m glad you reached out! You are not alone. I will be praying for you, for strength enough to make it through each day and for complete healing from your break up. I think rejection is the most painful emotion there is. Big hug! When my husband of eight years sat down on the couch next to me and told me he no longer loved me and left me and our two boys and filed for divorce, I was devastated!! I talked to my pastor and I saw Christian counselor. Both were very supportive and gave me good, sound advice. Do you have anyone like that in your life that you can talk to? Is there anyone you can call when you feel tempted to contact him? Hang in there! This too shall pass.

turn to God and sit and talk with him. That alone will fill that absence feelings. Secondly, i agree with the others...block all communication and make peace with the fact that you had 5 good years and that isnt a bad thing. The Serenity Prayer does come to mind right now. Take this time to built your character and work on a better you. Take charge of your life and reach for the stars. Your love is to be a precious gift that is designed for the whom God created for you. He desires to hear from you.
God Bless

P.S..It also helps to go to an Ocean with a bottle with a list of things that your are thankful for since this change has occurred. And make peace with the painsl you have endured. It worked for me about 80 percent

thanks again for your responses...
I am building a list of character issues..... that will fit in the bottle.
I must have been blinded by love for 5 years not to see these issues.....
I feel a little better already
if you want to see list just ask...
tim

I read this awhile ago...ok...ask yourself..."when I reach out is this going to change anything? Is there something that will be said that will change anything? "

Most of the the answer will be no, and no. I've been there...after each reach out...I feel stupid...and felt like I regressed.

Seems like you may be addicted. The best way to deal with an addiction is calling it what it is...and know that you are supsceptible to its allure.

That connection is great for that second if the person replies...but don't you in the end always feel disappointed and worst? Then you wait again for enough time to pass to rewrite your story and try again.

Find something that interests you in a healthy way and pour your energy into that. That will help.

Sending you light and love!

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