My heart goes out to you....a life changing event like this will be traumatic to say the least. You need time and self love and self care. Determine first if there is any chance of reconciliation, as your ex may have serious regrets in short order about the decision. If she is steadfast, then you must accept and move on the best you can...easier said then done for sure, but you must muster the emotional resolve and strength to carry on your daily activities, push yourself hard at work to be your best and also be the best father you can be for your children. You will get past this..it will just take time for healing. I wish you the best and take care of yourself.

DIVJ,

So sorry this is happening.

Do you have any idea why she would want to end it? What led up to this, do you think? Has she expressed being unhappy with something in your relationship, has she been going out or on social media more (met someone else??)?

I think knowing what it is, would be helpful in figuring out if this can be saved or not.

Thanks Joe Joe and GirlinCalif.

She had a mental breakdown in February but we were getting along well since. She did meet a man in a chat room and "fell in love with him." She says we have grown apart as the main reason for the divorce.

Ugh. Sorry this happened to you.

You will move on. Even if it doesn't seem like it now.

Have you retained a lawyer?

Do you still both live in the same house now?

Even though this is such a difficult time, know that you are going to be okay. And your kids will be okay. That you have to get through this rough time, but you will get through it. Although it's not going to be easy. Things won't be like they are now, forever. Things will improve. There will be some good days, some bad days, and some real bad days.

Make sure to be taking care of your physical and mental health during this time. And if you are really struggling, then talking to a therapist can be helpful.