All true. You make a good point. It seems obvious to me but I'm old. You really do have to very very careful. Very. We all are hurting and alone, some of us for the first time in a long time, so yes we have to remember we never know who it really is typing. Good point.

There's nothing wrong with connecting with others, just keep in mind that we are broken and it's a rebound thing

real world?..uhhh this is real and there are really people on the other end of those avatars.

yes there are the DS "playas" and just like any other place ..grocery store, bar, gym, mars, you could possibly find a needle in the haystack. but long term relationships I dont believe is what people that are going through, or recently went through a divorce need at this point.

I agree with happy that we should not mistake two people comforting one another for love or something long term. Often times that happens...Just understand that the person you are comforting as well are ourselves are in a needy date in your loves

Thanks Louie, that is exactly what I wanted to get across! Be careful and take the time you need to feel whole again before you try to be a partner to someone again. You have a much better chance at it working out!

Ok, I missed the party last night! I am such an outsider. I want to know what's going on here. Are there really people hooking up with one another? I guess it is interesting to see others profiles and their stories. I'll admit I've looked a few pictures and thought "oh, he sure is cute - why on earth would someone leave him?" I guess you have made me wonder if I would ever consider meeting with people from here. That's an interesting question. I get kind of jealous when I hear of some of the folks doing the meetup thing and think that I want to have someone who knows my story to hang out with. But, I still enjoy the site! It looks like you all had a GREAT night. I hope those who are "hooking" up are being cautious and really trying to get to know one another before jumping into anything too deep (or God Forbid, and jump into the sack).

Are yall talking about me.Damn the bad luck
it is what it is just proceed with caution

LOL at Scott.. You are not bad luck.. you give good advice to proceed with caution in any relationship. here or there,,. that is what I am going to do..

OK, here's the thing. DS is as real a place as the office, the gym, church, etc. We all came to an online support group because we were hurting or felt betrayed by the person we had chosen as our life mate. I've been here almost 5 months. When I joined, and for the first 3 months, I was a wreck. Then, I started to see the light and was discovering that life goes on and that I will survive this.

Almost two months ago, I started chatting with someone here who was going through her bad stuff. I was able to make her smile and provide some advice and positive outlooks. She was able to make me FEEL again by making me smile and making me see the good things in my life. We were a good match in that kindred spirit kind of way. Now, time has passed, we talk each and every day.

Are we "hooking up"? No. Is there a timetable or a rush to push it further? Nope. We are taking our time, getting to know each other, and continuing to bring joy to each other's lives on a daily basis. We have fun, we're playful, we flirt mercilessly and publicly (sorry), and we connect.

Tell me what's wrong with that?

Now yall messed it all up I was gonna get kimmee to marry me but now GREAT ill just worship her from afar

Tangled, your so good with words, comma's, periods, spelling and don't have run on sentences. Can I be you?

((Agree 110%))

Believe me, Kelly, you don't want to be me!! You just continue being you. LOL!

Just 110%??

I just got back from the fire station and noticed the reply from Scott.. I am LMAO here,. I love being worshiped from afar,,. I have never had that.. You are such a sweetie.. Here is a big hug for you from afar.. Kimmee

IMO it is a personal decision to make...some say they would never date someone they met online...some say they would never date someone they met in a bar...it's just a personal choice. I didn't come here intentionally or unintentionally open for romantic relationships...I was looking for support for my divorce alone. I'm not sure I would have met a "Mr. Right" here even if I'd chatted with him or bantered back and forth on a thread. Then again, I had already been legally divorced and was dating my bf by the time I started posting here (or right around that time). Who knows?

You crazy kids! I bet a few have started a little something just on this thread alone. It's so funny.