Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

13,010 Members
100,360 Posts
0 Online
Relationships & Sexuality
/ Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Dreams of what was or could be

matt9030
matt9030

ive been having a lot of dreams recently of my ex in them and it’s been kind of hard for me to go on with my day because of these thoughts going through my head about her. We’ve been broken up for over half a year but these thoughts have never left and I don’t know if it’s cause she still matters to me or because I just miss something. She impacted my life when she was in it but she is also still impacting me somehow without her being here. 

NvrGivUp15
NvrGivUp15
When you have spent so much time with a person, it is hard NOT to think of them or dream. It has been almost 3 years since my ex left, even though he has done horrific things, he still invades my thoughts.
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
If the relationship was very significant, and you truly thought it would last forever, then it could take a long time to completely get over her. But, the good news is, in the meantime, you are slowly getting over her.... each and every day that goes by. Sometimes, having dreams or nightmares about an ex could signal that you are missing something in your life. Maybe the girls you are dating now are just not right for you, so you are thinking/dreaming of how great things were with your ex. Our subconscious comes out in our dreams. Try to think of all the *bad* things about your ex! :) She couldn't have been that great... or she'd still be with you. There must have been some things you didn't like about her. Think more about those things. Make a list of pros and cons of her and make sure and include allllll of her cons. Also, try to branch out more. If you're around the same friends (as hers), and go to the same restaurants (that you two used to go to), then of course it's going to be hard to get past this. Time for some new things, new people, new adventures. Go out and get some new adventures! :) She's moved on, so why don't you?
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • GreenEyes727

    Need to Vent

    Posted by: GreenEyes727
    Last Reply: GreenEyes727
    8
    My best friend ruined my day with her immature, bitchy self.  If she doesn't get her way, she has a tizzy fit.  I told her weeks ago that I couildn't go to yard sales with her on 9/12 because i have a hair appointment.  She wasn't happy.  I also told her that I don't have any money to go to yard sales.  She tried to talk me into going to more yard sales by saying that if I don't go, there...
  • Mars1212

    gave notice(

    Posted by: Mars1212
    Last Reply: Mars1212
    7
    The Friday before Labor Day just before we left, the options given to me basically were either quit of be fired, and if I were to stay on I were to be put on an improvement plan, which is pretty much synonymous with getting fired. I was going to do the improvement plan and just ride it out until I found another job due to money and due to the fact that I did not want to quit without another job....