Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Every time I reflect back on the relationship ending I feel a lot of pain and regret. I feel like everything was my fault, and if I’d acted differently maybe I could have saved it. Every time I try to speak to someone new or think about it, I feel a pain in my chess like I’m doing something wrong and I need to wait on my ex to come back. I know this isn’t true but some times I feel like I’ll never find another woman to accept me like my ex did.
So My questions are:
should I wait till all the pain is gone before trying to meet someone?
I just don’t know if the pain goes away completely.
do anyone know any coping skills that work good to help me when I can’t stop thinking about my ex or feeling pain?
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My best friend ruined my day with her immature, bitchy self. If she doesn't get her way, she has a tizzy fit. I told her weeks ago that I couildn't go to yard sales with her on 9/12 because i have a hair appointment. She wasn't happy. I also told her that I don't have any money to go to yard sales. She tried to talk me into going to more yard sales by saying that if I don't go, there...
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The Friday before Labor Day just before we left, the options given to me basically were either quit of be fired, and if I were to stay on I were to be put on an improvement plan, which is pretty much synonymous with getting fired. I was going to do the improvement plan and just ride it out until I found another job due to money and due to the fact that I did not want to quit without another job....
All wounds if treated well go away only the scares remain, and those too fade with time.
Ask yourself why you are thinking about her? Ask yourself if you would treat yourself that way? would you treat someone else that way? Why are you treating yourself to pain of the past.
Its over, learn from it grow be a better person win the day.
Win in your fights to do better.
Text yourself like you are texting her, get it out say it out loud.
Ask yourself why you are holding on to something, do you hold on to a carton of rotten milk? do you leave your car on a flat tire and continue to ask it why it is flat?
Count the hours you don't think about her. push yourself to find yourself a better light inside you.
Look at all the positive things about you. Write them down if you have to. Like its oviouse you have a big heart ❤ and feel things deeply. Then you tell your self. " I have a lot to offer and Im going to wait for the right person. Someone who sees those qualities too".
While your waiting just be encouraged. The pain will end. Take care
Are there any projects around the house you've been wanting to do, or do you work on cars, play music, garden, etc., something that keeps you busy so you don't have time to think about the Ex.
Oh, and yes, the pain does go away. I think back to a painful breakup, okay it was over 20 years ago.... but still.... 5 years together, engaged... and it ended..... and at the time I thought my world would end, I'd never find anyone as good as him, what will my life be now....
And today? I never even think about him! Till I wrote you about him just now :)