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Mekia41
Mekia41

Well me and my ex was in contact and was intimate which was the biggest mistake I could have made the outcome was the same but it feels like I'm right back at square one like it is fresh. To me we have only been broke up 2 weeks but I am so still so much in love with him I just let the love with him that I just let the dreams and hopes take over i dnt know I feel so down and lost right niw its like I'm broken and can't be fixed I just wanna stop crying abd the urge to contact him and thinking bout him all the time is the worst for me he says its no reason that he just wants to be by himself for awhile but I dnt know im just so broken hearted right now 

Nicholas1993
Nicholas1993
Yes, you had a relapse. We've all been there. It's like an addiction..the withdraw is physically painful.

First, forgive yourself. We all make mistakes. Next, rejection causes us to want to reach out and understand. It won't help anything. If he wants to be alone you have to respect that decision. It's tough. I felt like you. It hurt for weeks, yet if you truly love someone you want the best for them right?

Take it a day at a time. Understand that it will get better. Work on you. I know it's hard to see but there will be other loves, hopes, and dreams.

Hugs
Mekia41
Mekia41
Thank you that is so true and I actually came to that same conclusion that I love him enough let him deal with him and work on himself and I have to work on me
Trying2Heal
Trying2Heal
I know you will get through this. Your story helped me because I have relapsed. I beat myself up so bad. Mainly because my husband cheated, and is still with the other woman. He says that he is going to leave her but can't right now. Essentially, he has swapped our roles. I'm his side-chick and he gives her a little respect . But when you think about it, he doesn't respect either one of us. That revelation just helped me. All I wanted was to have that lace back. That.love doesn't exist, it's lust. Whenever he sees me, he want to have sex, but runs when I try to discuss us 1st. I want off of this merry-go-round. He's not worth my tears, my happiness, or peace. My heart will heal, and yours will too. Sorry to talk about me.
Mekia41
Mekia41
No thats okay because your story is the exact same as my story when we say okay we are going to get together to talk about the relationship it never fails we end of have sex so after yesterday I said what I'm I upset for my situation has not changed with him I'm still broken up I can't keep wasting tears on him when I seem to be the only one of us who cares or he can really hise his feelings
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
If you happen to have another talk sometime, agree to meet in a public place such as a coffee shop, restaurant, the park, etc. That way you won't be so tempted to just have sex.

Sorry you are going through this. Try to be strong and not contact him. If he says he just wants to be by himself, then I guess just let him. Try to stay busy with your own things. Call up friends, get together with them. See family. Go out somewhere. Don't sit at home and dwell about him. Live your life :)
Mekia41
Mekia41
Thats what I'm doing now I'm just doing me as a single woman
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