i can only speak from my experience... no
i believe that some are, even without getting caught
regardless, what is important is how you decide to handle being cheated on,
that is the only thing in your control

I never got a "sorry" or even an admission of cheating from my adulterous ex-wife - no sign of regret or repentance at all.

Did she feel any of those things? Perhaps. I never saw it. Yeah, I suppose it would be nice to get a big apology for her ruinous ways. But it'll never happen (divorced 3 years now).

I think the important thing, which Snipsnipe said above, is just to control how you react to things. Assume you will never get that apology. Focus on you. Realize that cheating is a flaw in the cheater, not in you! And move forward the best you can. Best wishes.

Adding on to what has already been posted, I would say *Actions speak louder than words* when it comes to them either saying they are sorry and them actually walking the walk of actually BEING sorry.

I do believe some are sorry and sincere about it. I also believe people CAN change. I think the biggest factor is the maturity level of the person and the relationship they have.

Speaking from my own personal experience: Absolutely.

Fortunately, in line with what the others here have posted, it should be relatively easy for you to discern whether your cheater is genuinely sorry. But remember, it may take time. Months or years is not uncommon. (My wife cheated, and after D-Day it took us 2-1/2 years to put our marriage back together).

It's up to you to decide whether you want to stick around for them to smell the coffee.

I do believe people who cheat can be sorry and change their ways - if they're willing to talk about it and work on themselves. Not everyone is able to look deeply inside themselves enough to figure out why they felt the need to cheat in the first place and then discuss it with others. But some do. Some people say they're sorry but don't repent - change their heart and ways - because deep down they're not really sorry or they don't know how to change. But if someone seems truly sorry yet continues to have affairs, then that person has an addiction and probably needs counseling.

I believe that once the trust is broken...the marriage is always broken and that level of trust is gone for good.
Remorse or not

My wife and I were married for 10 yrs., separated for 1-1/2 yrs. before the divorce was finalized. I re-married and she remarried and in 2009, she got cancer and in `2012, the cancer returned. The day before she died, I went to the hospital to see her. I asked her of she wanted to tell me anything, she said "no". I asked her if she wanted to ask me anything, again, she said "no". 3 yrs. earlier, when she was in the ER and given weeks to live in 2009, I went to her and said I was sorry for all the things I did to make her hate me all those years. She wrote on a pad, "thank you". She never did apologize for trying to stab me, trying to shoot me, having numerous affairs, knocking me down in the street with her car or how she verbally abused me. I had even asked to talk to her one on one in early 2012 and she refused to meet me or talk to me. I wish she would have answered some questions for me. These unanswered questions still hurt, after all these years.