We live in Central jersey. The only credit we have is the mortgage, the cars are paid off. Everything else we pay in full.

If she doesn't appreciate, I know someone who would (raising both my hands and waving a flag).

I live in Central Jersey. I have a mortgage and two car payments, 3 cars insured, credit card debt, a home equity loan, plus more. I'm on my third kid going to college, it's going to have to be the county college. I get by on less than half that. It does depend on how high your mortgage is, I'll admit. If I had a big expensive house I couldn't do it.

Um yeah, I could live on that quite comfortably.

if you are not yet divorced why are you giving her any money?

I wouldent pay anything untill the judge made me.

The mortgage is only $1,700 a month.

I have to give her money because of the Restraining Order she put on me. it is court ordered.

$6000 a month?? Lessee...you say she adds this to what she makes? That means she makes $4000 alone.

That's three frigging times what I make!!! Where does anyone get off thinking they are entitled to that kind of money?? I got people telling me I'm make too much...jeez...

My kids are upset with me because my stbx told them that I'm mad at mommy that's why I won't pay for their activities.

How do you explain this to your kids?

I shouldn't have to, they should not be burdened by this.

I hate my stbx.

Ask her to give you a list of her monthly expenses and then copies of all the bills she pays with this money - including the kids activities.

It's hard for us to determine if that's enough, because for most of us here, it's more than enough. However, if your lifestyle with her previously accomodated this kind of spending, then I can see where she still feels entitled to the same lifestyle (not saying that she is).

Get a list and then determine if your family can live on this kind of money.

Also, if she was paying any bills with her income prior to the seperation, get a lawyer to draw up a "status quo" and this will make her continue to pay these bills - however, keep in mind, it will also make you continue to pay whatever you were paying too.

I wish I had that much money a month to live on. But, remember, it's only money and most things are more important than money, like peace of mind and the kids.

I would tape my kids saying those things. Let the judge listen. Put a voice activated tape recorder under your seat when you pick up the kids. No radio!! Just talk. Don't press them for information.

Tell them you love them and you are waiting for what the judge says is fair for both mommy and daddy. Tell them they should never worry about money. That is mommy and daddy's decision and not theirs and that they will be just fine.

Good luck.

I think $6000/mon. is definitely enough to live on if you don't have children.

I be soo happy If my ex gave me something. I got nothing but my paycheck only and sure isn't 6 grand. I hope the judge does not give anymore.

i would find out if it true about the kids activities first then take it from there - make some phone calls find out how much fees are etc if they are paid up then talk to your lawyer first

just my 2 cents

I would be living in the lap of luxury if I had $6000 a month.