I have noticed this and wondered about it too. It hurts that a group of people who are so discriminated against would turn around and do the ssame thing. If someone cries out for tolerance, they had better be prepared to do it themselves.

Here is a good thread for you about how people feel about bi's. We drive everyone insane with our "confusion"...HA!

http://dailystrength.org/c/Bisexuality/forum/3114493-bisexuality-not-just-being

depends who u meet, ur gonna have half of them who hate it and the other half who dont mind. find urself a good group of gay friends who will like u for u.

i hate seeing ppl who are in the same situations and they got the nerve to be prejudice and judgmental, its really contradicting and in denial.

this kind of stuff pisses me off.
why should it matter?
i know i didnt choose this because it's how ive always felt.
im not confused and i cant make up my mind, it was made up for me a long time ago.

I've not found that gays 'hate' bisexuals per se, but (and I am also a champion of gay rights with many gay friends) I have noticed that it's normally my lesbian friends who have more of a problem with me being bisexual. For instance, my best friend really just doesn't believe that someone can be attracted to both men and women. Have you ever read anything about a 'spectrum of sexuality'? I believe there are more of us (bisexuals) out there than anyone could imagine. It's just that there are people who choose to act on their inclinations/desires and people who don't.

I've known that I was bisexual since I was a teenager and I had a "friend" who told me that my sexuality simply did not exist! I had to be either gay or straight....she herself was gay. I've had other people tell me that I am just a slut because I just want to have my cake and eat it too....so I can have a boyfriend and a girlfriend...I have been nothing but monogamous...ever. I have always felt attacked by both sides so I never felt the need to come out to anybody. Its my business what I am and who I date....no rainbow parades like when my gay friends came out, and I just let everyone else assume what they want.....I really don't care anymore.

Hey now folks, I'm gay all the way, and I don't hate anyone that's bisexual. You can definitely be attracted to both sexes - it's the personality you fall for, not the genitalia. Personally, I've got quite a few bi friends, and I love them to death. For a long time, I denied the fact that I was gay. It was a huge step for me to come out as bi, but I realized all too quickly that guys just aren't my thing romantically (sorry fellas). That's not to say that I don't love my male friends to pieces! Seriously, though, not all gay people hate bisexuals. A lot of the time it's just frustration or jealousy that causes them to lash out at you. Trust me, I've met some fellow gay people that were very hateful toward bisexuals, but after trying to get to the root of their hate, I discovered that they were either frustrated for reasons having to do with who they are and their orientation, versus that of bisexuals, or that they felt jealousy when in a relationship with someone that is bi, because they felt like they had to compete with the opposite sex. It's definitely something that varies from person to person, so to collectively say that gay people hate bisexuals (for those of you that have) is in a way, a form of discrimination and hate. I certainly don't hate anyone because they're bisexual. As with being a part of anything considered "out of the norm," you're going to experience a lot of different attitudes, feelings, and opinions. You just have to be comfortable with who you are, and accept those around you for who they are too. You don't always know the full story with people, so judging isn't the way to go. Trust me, you're not hated by everyone, and you're certainly not alone in feeling hated within your own community.

Anyway, I think I've typed more than enough, and you're all probably sick of reading, so I'll leave this where it is.

Peace, love, and harmony to all of you.

=)

I agree its so not fair... I think that those "gays" you speak of are prolly annoyed because of the way that in High schools BI is a TREND ... But there are a few of us that are really BI... I love a person for who they are not whats under the pants (or skirt)

i agree with ladytiger. its all about who you meet. cause my boyfriend is gay and im bisexual. but theres no conflict. i have a few gay friends and most used to be bi so they dont see the problem with it. cause they used to be there.

I just can't get over the fact that ANYONE would care about what anyone else does with their own lives. No one should hate anyone else for being who and what they want to be. Good grief.

And besides, if being bisexual IS a choice (and I'm not saying it is or it isn't either way), then it's that person's choice! Who says we need to give up any right to choose???

Sexuality is such a powerful and integral part of who we are that when someone discovers that they like men or women it's hard to understand how someone can like both. When you step back and look at culture, lifestyles revolve around the dynamics of love and relationships and trying to fit in the concept of loving both men and women is rather difficult. Much if not all of heterosexual lifestyle and identity revolve around the male/female dynamic. Much if not all of the homosexual lifestyle and identity revolve around the same sex dynamic. Now try to take both of those lifestyles, which are often at odds with each other, and try to merge them into one, it seems impossible. There's too much conflict. So it seems. And then in come bisexuals. Being heterosexual or homosexual isn't just an orientation it's a lifestyle, a culture and an identity. People have a very hard time trying to wrap their minds around how a person can be heterosexual and homosexual at the same time, which is essentially how we're seen. This is why I think it's important that it be known that bisexuality is uniquely different from being heterosexual or homosexual, yet we share some things in common with each.

In my opinion we bisexuals have a sexuality that isn't solely dictated by the sex of the people were attracted to even though we do recognize the sex of the individual and take pleasure in that.

Personally, I was 12 when I had my first girl crush which was around the same time I started to take a more romantic interest in boys. I don't recall ever, not once, making a decision to like girls along with boys. I didn't choose to be bisexual. I just am and I think it's one of the natural variations of human sexuality. I don't know what it feels like to be exclusively straight or gay but I don't turn around and say that it doesn't exist. It's very arrogant of people to assume that just because they've never felt something that it's not possible for others to feel so.

mauree, i read, quite a while back, about a study..different sexual orientations- gay, bi, straight, both men and women. they were all shown heterosexual and homosexual porn- their vitals were monitored to pick up signs of arousal. In this particular study 100% of all people became aroused (some a little, some a lot) from both kinds of porn. Interestingly, the people who confessed to being "homophobic" or in some way against homosexuality were the ones who became most aroused by the homosexual porn. lol. anyway, the point is that studies like this show that we are indeed all bisexual to different degrees. (though people still have strong preferences, ie, gay or straight)

hlks, Oh I saw that report too. Very interesting.

In my own opinion, I think some gays dislike bisexuals because they either believe we're just playing around with them, are worried that they have to compete with the opposite sex as well. Natuarally not all people will fit into this as in any category. All I know is that, that's what I'd be concerned about if I was dating a bisexual and I wasn't myself and didn't know that specific person well yet.

So they're just being ignorant bigots. It is ironic, but I constantly see examples of a group of people inflicting the same type of abuse that they suffered themselves before emancipation.

Anyway, why would gay people look down on straight people? What's up with that?