Not slow...just challenged as far as hairstyles

yes, WeeOne - and no. Scottysgurl, I like your comment.

This is a microcosm of the Giant Playground of Life - when I was small, we took turns being in charge! That way, we could all practice.

Some were better than others; some really Sucked at it, but everyone knew we All needed the skills.

You should all take turns being a moderator - or not playing at all. WeeOne's point leaves us as we are - free to Choose.

If we become defensive over the comments of an avitar on a screen, what does that tell us?

Multiple diagnoses are not as uncommon as folks used to think. And those need to practice social skills as much as the others!

In a Perfect World, we would need no Perfecting. But, God bless us, we do! So let's get in there and see if we can bloom where we're planted - weeds and all.

not once has someone come on here and truly needed help and others turned it into a joke. They have always received help and answers in extremely trying times. But I still think trying to blame someones suicide on what was said on here is a little iresponsible.

I like what you said Soul...wish it could work like that...I fear`it will not...the authors of this site are very slow and wooden in thes areas

I have never had an offensive avitar, offensive picture up posted at all. I don't like anything that looks disturbing. I am not saying there should only be one moderator, but moderators on the board would be a great help. Then, the DS founders won't have as much stress and heartache to deal with. They won't always feel like they have to come into this room and babysit. I know a car forum that has moderators, and tons of people still frequent it. My husband is a member of the car forum as well.

Princess

You know what - that really Is a good idea. Get Doug to have BP board levels, like video games, with access passes when someone exhibits Mature behavior over a period of time. Level 1 for beginners, Level 2 for intermed's and Level 3 for those who are getting better at interaction.

It sure wouldn't be perfect - and I'm ok the way things are - but it might be a workable alternative.

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Echosstirred: Emotional abuse can and will cause suicide. I am SO sorry that you disagree, but you can stop living in denial now. I am sorry that this may sound so harsh, but emotional abuse is as abusive as physical abuse is. It's just abuse with a different label on it. It's just another generic form describing heartache and pain. People sure can cause other people to become suicidal to the point where they will act on those tendencies.

A full-time moderator or OP (operator) would end this bashing, once and for all. It wouldn't progress where people slash themselves, OD on alcohol and pills and get this board back to normal! I think BiPolar Princess has the smarts to monitor us... Gawd only knows... we're driving Doug nuts with our continual bickering and bashing! Welcome to the 2000's! We've lost too many members... 'cuz we destroy the fabric of this community! It has to stop... and if a monitor will stop it... more power to her! GOOD LUCK BI-POLAR PRINCESS!

Im not in denial. NAd how dare you take that holier than thou tone with me. How could you possibly know anything about who I am or what Ive been through. How can you pretend to know what I think or what type of emotional abuse Ive suffered. You dont. You claim to be this person of compassion but your no different than the people your trying to persecute.

Well I have a couple of opinions too -- lol -- like that surprises anyone!

When we're in a good space, someone's antagonistic and abusive behaviors may make us mad as hell, but won't typically drive someone to make a suicide attempt. However, this IS a bipolar board, people here are in different emotional places and the point and goal of the board is to share, to decrease isolation, support one another, become more educated in order to better help ourselves and by all means, to enjoy each others company and laugh a bit.

Sadly, because we are sometimes in different emotional places, someones words and antagonistic ways most definitely can be the final thing that pushes someone over the edge.

Regarding moderators. Doug has yet to tell us he's shutting us down, or he's sick of us. He simply handles things appropriately as they come up and works his butt off to make this a safe and comfortable place for us all. I don't think we need moderators, I for one don't feel I need a boss or a babysitter.

But I sure do appreciate that Doug is there and very attentive. I actually spotted him on the board a few nights ago at midnight, although it was only 9 in CA.

MHA: We're already monitored! Doug.
At the very least, let's get monitored that knows our quirks and attitude. One of us.
That would keep Doug from monitoring this site. And, he does!

As usual MHA your right on point. I couldnt have said it better myself. Thats why I dont try.

Thank you echo.

MT -- I know Doug is lurking and checking things out. That's because he cares about a project he was part of creating, and that's a wonderful thing.

But, to have anyone on here, telling us what is acceptable and not.... nope, it just doesn't wash with me. I can't help it.

I think Doug is doing a great job at what he's doing. And honestly, I don't think it is healthy for any of us to feel we are responsible for the board and it's tons of people who travel through here. We all share the same illness and sorry, but we've seen most of us, myself included, have our share of ups and downs.

I stand by what I said. Utilizing someone from within to be a moderator 1. Wouldn't work and 2. Would not be healthy.

Yes, we get assholes who come in and reak havoc and God knows how upset I am that they even can push a fragile person over the edge, but, the proposed plan has far too many holes. Introduce a new one and I may bite, but not this one.

Doug is impartial. This site is Dougs baby. THAT is what makes the current situation work. Might take a couple of days while he investigates to be fair to all, but it works in the end. IMHO.

MHA: Wouldn't you want a board that in invulnerable to troll attacks and posting of attack? Woudn't you want a site governed by one of us, instead of someone that has no idea of our quirks and violent attacks? Are you disputing the fact that we need governing, or are you just opposed to the fact that we need watching? All I'm saying is "Big Brother" is already watching you! Let's make Big Brother one of our own? Someone that realizes that we lash out at each other... or, come to someone's assistance. I prefer that we have one of our own manage this section of the board.
Doug has to step in, numerous times and ban members... he's watching. I'd prefer a middle-man that has run the gamut of postings on this board. Bipolar Princess!

MT -- this is one we're just not going to agree on...but that is okay you know. We aren't all going to agree on everything.

I stand by my belief that it's not healthy for someone from within to be "in charge".

Bpprincess is a wonderful person -- this isn't about her or anyone else.

But we all have our friends in here and it would far to easy for one of us to side with someone or to simply not like someone.

Again, Dougs impartial. I think that is needed and....he's very responsive.

We're both entitled to our opinions.