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Turn it around. Start asking your husband what exactly has he done to make this situation with his son, more to his liking?
Of course his answer won't matter and it's ultimately up to your son what he does with his own life, since your son is an adult.
But, I would turn it around and throw it back at your husband. See how he feels being on the receiving end of all this criticism. Hey, you never know... worth a try... he could wake up. Or not?
Believe me all
The other fathers are highly involved in this stuff.
He says the advisor was sick of hearing from him ( not true ) and if the situation was that important or that dyer then husband should definitely have called him. There is zero excuse why he didn’t.
He knew the advisor was doing what he could do.
Husband just likes to put this on someone else take any guilt off himself.
Of course I feel bad enough for my son. He doesn’t deserve what happened. Everything he ever got and accomplished he did on his own. We have no pull or political ties.