I definitely do not mean to react to what people are telling me here.
Sometimes I feel like I am not getting all that is going on out the way it needs to be presented and understandable.
I truly regret the day I married him. So many years ago. I knew his personality (somewhat) before we got married. There were some signs, but nothing like now. And he never called me names and seemed to treat me as if he married "up" for lack of a better saying. he truly treated me very well and we enjoyed each other and were good friends as well.

He always said, the past few years, he had guilt from how hard he was on his son etc. I think he wants to get it off his chest so he's transferring it all to me.
And regarding our daughter, he puts down her boyfriend like he isnt good enough, but what I see in the boyfriend, is someone who respects woman and if DIFFERENT from my husband. Now that is why he doesn't like him!

And, yes Mid, he handles things silent etc., but you must understand, it isn't that things are just bothering him, it's ME. Again, I am to blame for anything going wrong. (the sport my son plays, etc) So today, it will be a walk on eggshells household. I still do not feel well enough to even have any encounters with him.

Just yesterday I think, he just calls me dumb just because we are discussing something and maybe words come out wrong. I am far from dumb I have more common sense than anyone, and I am just not a dumb person.

When will this end, what is the outcome going to be?

I didn't do anything to deserve this today.
He just walks out here and says "what do i have for lunch (not in a nice tone)"
We were literally fine up to that game time of my son yesterday. So I don't dare ask what is wrong. It's not worth it.

Why is this my life. Why. I am not a bad person. I care about everyone.
I have the softest heart.
I didn't expect this today from this person I call a husband .
I am beyond sick.

Hi. I don't mean to sound ignorant but why are you still in this abusive marriage? Are you stuck financially? You are obviously very unhappy. What does your therapist say? Do you think that marriage counseling would help? Something has to change for your mental well-being. I broke off my last relationship 26.5 years ago. You might think I'd fall for the first guy who paid attention to me. Nope. I just cannot be with someone who doesn't turn me on. I have been in an abusive relationship. I stayed too long. I lost my best friend over him. I finally kicked him out, got a second job, lost 30 pounds and ended up with a hot boyfriend. Unfortunately, I had to break up with him too. He was driving me crazy. I think you need to get your self-esteem up. You sound like a very thoughtful, caring, good person.

GreenEyes. I am really not stuck financially. Even though I’m
not working at this time doesn’t mean I have to stay.
I could care less about having another man in my life. That’s the last thing I want right now.
Can you imagine yesterday this time we were watching some
Tv show we have gotten in to. Talking about the day etc. right up until my son didn’t play well in a game. Everything is my fault. He will say it’s because when the kids were home from the holiday we didn’t talk about anything important to them.
So now he’s in his office. I’m in house. We usually would watch football together on Sunday. I’m sure that’s not happening. I’m not going to ask him anything because I’m just not going to argue or be called names or be threatened or told how dumb I am.

Oh interesting because I really don’t have any friends. This happened because you know when things are bothering you you shut everyone out. Well through the years I lost all my friends because of the goings on here.
I have my siblings but they know nothing of what goes on here.

Please what the hell did I do.
He’s comfortable watching the football game just ignoring me.
I can’t take it anymore.
I need it to stop
I feel like I’m having a bad dream
My entire Sunday is ruined.
I prayed in church this morning for God to help me today.
I just wanted to have a calm Sunday. I went to bed not knowing I’d wake up to this today.
Im sick right now. Just sick

And it’s just freezing out so I’m
not interested in going out or doing anything. Still in recovery mode from the COVID.

Why would this be happening to me. after I’ve done all stuff around house I came up to my room and am laying here crying.
What could happen while we are asleep that he decides to pull this on me today.
Why would God do this to me? I just want everyone to get along. Life is way too short.
You know my husbands sister has to go in for a procedure as they see a mass on her ovary.
You would think this would throw a little shock his way realizing the crap he pulls is a waste of time.
I lit a candle for my sister in law at church today.
I DONT DESERVE THIS. I HATE IT. I CANT BELEIVE THIS IS MY SUNDAY

Ok no offense but maybe stop with why would god do this to you. God isn’t doing this to you. You married him. You did that. You are not a victim here. But you have choices.

I know God hasn’t done this to me. I’m just super upset.
I pray for our family all the time.
And he isn’t who I married. But I guess I should have seen maybe what his life was like before I married him. That’s hard to do when you’re 25 years old and dating and having a good time.
I’m just don’t know why he’s doing this to me today. It’s really miserable

Every time you say “ I can’t take it”, you are reinforcing your inability. That kind of thinking is keeping you down. Instead say “ I see my anxiety is high but I can get thru it today”.

I am going to get through the day but at the cost of doing nothing and no one speaking to me.

Stop. For. A. Moment.

Look at this as we are speaking with you, through the computer. Take a moment and know that each of us is trying to give you a way to move through this.

One of the hardest things as we grow older with a partner is when it changes, it often changes abruptly and hits us hard enough to knock us off our feet.

This is not about him. This is about you.
What do you want?

The more you choose what you want for yourself, the better you will feel for doing what works for you.

Wish there was more we could do through writing to help you help yourself. You are not alone.

Thank you mid. I know everyone here I trying to help. That’s why I write. I also write because I truly (other than a therapist) have no one to tell this to
The silence all day was deafening.
I definitely know what I want but it certainly isn’t going to be easy that’s for sure. Between my kids and just all of life ,
And let’s not forget this is how he’s treating me now can you imagine what happens if we are to split up. ?
This day has hurt me more than anything because I don’t even know (I can assume) why he just ignores me for an entire day.

You're husband is doing the same things I did. I was too tough as a sports parent and I'd also have days of not talking to my spouse. Both are verbal abuse and you need it to stop.
Like me your husband is a narcissist. He sees a bad game as a relection on him. I don't know what makes us that way but anything wrong is internalized and then lased out against someone, usually those closest unfortunately.
The very difficult part is getting him to see it. I'm lucky I guess but it's almost impossible to see. It took me losing everyone to finally realize and then it was too late.
The only things he should say to your son after a bad game, or a loss, are "did you play hard?" "were you a good teammate?" "keep working hard it will get better", things like that. But he can't see it right now.