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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Wanthappiness
Wanthappiness

My relationship is giving anxiety.  My boyfriend and I have been together 2 months. I love him but am I "in love with him" he is head over heals thinking about our future and I feel smothered and I am wanting to enjoy the moment. My anxiety has kicked in overdrive and some depression. I have been googling and trying to see why I get this way shut down scared am I am I scared of commitment am I an avoidant attachment style does he deserve better than me am I going to be alone the rest of my life. Am I good enough is he better off without me. I am so in my head I can't focus I just keep.negative talking to myself. He is trying to be supportive not understanding anxiety but does he deserve to be with someone like me.

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Wanthappiness,

I would feel anxious too, if a guy was head over heels so soon, talking about the future too much, putting any pressure on me to feel the same way he does, etc.

You can talk to him. Tell him you are currently working on yourself and you need to go slow with this relationship.

Use "I" statements (I need to go slow, I need to work on myself....). If he does love you as he says he does, he will be just fine going slower and waiting for you.

Don't worry about him. Work on yourself. No relationship is going to work well until you get yourself better. You can do this!
Wanthappiness
Wanthappiness
Thank you GC I will use the I statement if he gets too overwhelming.
KimmyO
KimmyO
Be honest with him saying you need a bit of space and time and independence. If you were sure of your depth of love and desire for commitment, you would be ready, don't let yourself be rushed into a lasting relationship if you are not ready ,esp if it is only fear that would make you commit to them, fear of being alone. It is better to be alone than in a bad relationship for sure. Breathe in deep, replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations out loud to correct your thoughts of yourself and your life. Trust your instincts, live the life you want, not what someone else wants. Also, take a good multi vitamin, to give yourself what you need to deal with life, esp with extra magnesium to calm you and extra B complex vitamins to give you focus and energy. <3 You got this and will make the right decision.
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