Welcome gmcm and symbolsmith, and hello again BillNSal!

My husband died from complications of lung cancer in March of 2019. It was not a fairy-tale marriage. He suffered from alcoholism, and the last 8 or 10 years of our marriage was sad and difficult for both of us. I hope he is at peace.

Hi. My name is Kim and I just lost my husband 1 week ago today. He was a diabetic and due to complications he would become disabled about 7 years or so ago. He had been having a very rough week. That night he would be taken by ambulance and eventually did pass from congestive heart failure.

We were married for over 17 years (but had a lot of issues for the past 12.) In the end I do realize that his struggles with his issues and mine with feeling so overwhelmed and alone in it all (with so much responsibility and just trying to keep on with work, home, him and my own health suffering ) did contribute to everything. But I really did love him and he did me (as best he knew how)

Now he is at peace and eventually I will start MY life over. (Something I have never truly had my entire life. I always did for others and forgot about myself) I do miss him at times and it is a bit of a roller coaster.

I have been on DS for several years and found friends and solace in different groups for different issues over the years. Now I have found myself here with the rest of you. I am truly sorry for your losses and that these are the circumstances that led us all here. You are all in my thoughts and prayers (just as he is)

Hello Martha I am a old member 10 years ago this April my wife Cindy pasted away from alcohol abuse . I found her her on the couch with no pulse and called 911 and started CPR until help got there she was gone before I found her .I made some friends here which helped me one friend became even more feelings grow so we started calling each other she lived in Sydney Australia I lived in Pittsburgh PA I moved to be with her ,and that was when I stopped coming on here .However after 8 years my new spouse Wendy got sick just before this last Christmas and was told she has liver cancer and there wasnt anything they can do for her they have told us she doesnt have very long and everything I felt before is coming back its hard to watch someone who was so active and strong get so week so fast .Wendy doesnt drink and do drugs and played sports her whole life now has to have help to walk up the stairs at night .sorry to say my sad story with a happy ending went bad again Cindy my first wife was 45 years old and I was 47 ,Wendy is 61 and I am now 57

I remember you. I am so sorry to hear Wendy is ill. You made a big move and so did I, and I know I dread going through the grief a 2nd time. Mark and I both do. I wish I could give you both a big hug!

thank you Martha its not easy going through this for the second time yes I did make the big move to be with Wendy she is my whole life I have done everything for her now I dont know what I am going to do

Hello.
I'm Jane and I lost my partner and soulmate on December 9th, 2019.
It was a difficult road as he was diagnosed with cancer 6 years prior and the last 3 years were surgeries and radiation treatments.
I lost my best friend, my laughing partner and adventure rider all in a single moment.
What gets me is the response from well-meaning people. People who haven't experienced a significant loss and "think" they know how to respond. I had a good friend tell me when I return to work- to set the boundaries, so I did. Did my colleagues respect those boundaries? Several did but several didn't. And when I told them to respect my boundaries, they were shocked. Some don't talk to me now, some do. One is a pure drama queen.
But what I usually get is people telling me how I should feel, react and be. So I say "really? You think so, eh?" cock my head and that shuts them up. So when my mother passed 3 weeks ago - I didn't tell my colleagues. I called in sick and then returned to work as if I had a bad cold. Why don't people respect death as a process and not a stage for drama or their unresolved issues? Why is death not talked about in a normal context much like birth?

Jiji, I had the most incredible things said to me at work. I lost 15 pounds in the first month after Cliff died, and the office bimbo actually asked me what diet I was on and hw much weight I'd lost. My manager intervened before I lost my cool. I realized later in hindsight that I should have said "235 pounds and his name was Cliff." I had one guy tell me he never knew what to say in these circumstances so he was not going to say anything - and didn't! By that point, I was actually glad he kept his mouth shut!

Hi Martha
I can relate. My husband died suddenly at 64, day after Thanksgiving 2014. My life was turned upside down too...the most devastating event of my life! I have no plans to remarry but God knows. So I live through His will. I go one day at a time. Today was an emotional day not for any big reason but it happens now and again but nothing like the first 3 and half years! I'm grateful for the great life we had together. Not everyone can say that.
Thank you for sharing!

Hello

I’m Rhonda lee
My husband passed may 20 2020 of a heart attack in the night at 58 years young.. we were together for 20 years. I just turned 48.
We were close and had a true love. He held my hand and told me that he loved me everyday.
It was just always me and him and I feel so lost.
I joined this site to connect with others that can relate to my situation.

Hi all! I have been a member for I think about 5 years after my dear wife Mary passed from a rare form of cancer in December of 2014. I don't post too often, but enjoy reading others posts, as they have helped me to realize many of the feelings I have been feeling are normal, and have been experienced by many others on this site.

Hello, I'm Sharon. I joined Dailystrength back around 2007 when I lost my husband to lung cancer. Much has changed in my life since then. About 2012 or so very met a wonderful man shared my life until he died in 2017. I've roamed around in life trying.to find something I can't know what.

Daily strength was my lifesaver and I hope to find that love and support again.
Sharon

Hi! My name is Noel. I lost my husband 5 weeks ago. Some days I don’t know what my purpose is supposed to be now that he’s gone. Some days I just keep busy so I don’t have time to think too much about life without. Sometimes I am overwhelmed. Sometimes I am numb. He was my biggest cheerleader for the past 26 years. I don’t want to be a widow. I want to be his wife.

Hi Martha,
My name is Sherry, I loss my husband of 51 years last year. I have had to make so many decisions just to carry on day to day. My life evolved around my husband, children and family business. My children are grown and live out of state and I have had to end the business. I am not sure where or what I want to do
at this point in my life. Thanks all for being here.

Hi all...my name is Marcy and I lost my husband Dan on 3/14/2020. I have been experiencing all my “firsts”, but I am now approaching the anniversaries of all my lasts. The last time we sitting at the kitchen table, sleeping together, etc. Dan was diagnosed with glioblastoma in the brain 1/31/2020, and passed 3/14/2020. I went from diagnosis, surgery, rehab, relapse, death/mourning in a relatively short amount of time. It is now the anniversary of diagnosis and surgery. We knew each other 41 years, married 36 1/2. He was my BFF, soulmate. I am blessed with our wonderful sons and very good friends, but I am incredibly sad. He was a builder who built our home, but never truly finished. Now I am facing the challenges of fixing things to prepare to sell, and I must sell. All this going on during a pandemic, now major snow storm, teaching remotely....I am feeling a bit overwhelmed.. This is a great forum to share, and I thank you for listening, because sometimes there are days that I just want to crawl into bed and shut the world out