Hello. My name is Yazmin. My husband, Doug, died February 26, 2017. He was a two time liver recipient and was on the list for a third. He was 52. We were together for 27 years. I am totally lost. I was never a very social person and we basically were together all the time. Now all of my family and friends want me to "get out there." Out where? It's not me. My spiritual friends tell me to go to church more. Join groups. My social friends want to me go out with them more. Weekends are for staying out late. I just want to sit at home with a book and have my husband with me. I miss him so much. I miss holding his hand while I read and he watched sports. I leave the golf channel on all the time. For comfort.

Hi, I am Darlene, I lost my husband of 47 years on 12/06/2015 to cancer. This is a hard time of year for me. I am trying to go on with my life although it is not easy. I found I couldn’t stand being housebound in the winter, it was just to depressing now I follow the sunshine south, found a reasonable place for snowbirds. I don’t get on here as often as I did. Prayers for you all in this season of memories.

Darlene, "season of memories" is a perfect description of this time of year. I'm glad you stopped by.

Welcome Yazmin. Not everybody is an outgoing extrovert. People who are really into the whole social scene won't understand that. I had a coworker try to get me to "go clubbing so we could pick up cute guys" when I was only about 2 months into my widowhood. That was an absurd idea on so many different levels.

One thing that might be worth trying would be to see if your local library has a book group. I am a reader, always have been, and sometimes it's nice to read a book and get someone else's reaction to it. The library is usually a safe, non-pressured environment. It would also get others off your back about socializing. I belong to two book groups at present; one run by our local library and another that is through our church so the books are more spiritually-relevant. I have met some nice people this way. I enjoy both groups very much.

Anyway, it's just a thought. It won't replace your husband, nothing can. I understand that. Cliff and I used to read to each other. I still miss that. But maybe it would be a small step that would give you a break from the constant weight of being Doug's widow.

Hope this helps.

Love and Hugs,
Martha

Hi,
I'm Todd/akgc12
I lost the love of my life Dianna on Oct 2nd 2019 due to sepsis,
I just found this group. The hurt runs so deep

Hi Martha,
This is Judy from southern Illinois. II disappeared from here awhile back. I lost my husband Gary in February 2018. I lived in a fog for so many many months. Things are better now. I miss him and I know one day we will be together. Memories still have a way of sneaking up on me and flood my eyes. I will get through this!

Hi Martha, I'm one of the old site peeps. It's been a little over seven years since I lost my wonderful husband of 41 years, suddenly , while we were on vacation. You and Sharon were among the first who reached out and held me up in those early, devastating days of this horrible journey. I'm still a work in progress...the holidays are still so difficult. Thank you again for all you do for those traveling this heartbreaking journey. ..........I miss the old site so I don't come here very often. Blessings, Sharon

I'm Kate. I lost my husband to a heart attack in December 2015. I was 45 years old, so pretty young. Like many of you, I don't come here often anymore, but every now and again grief appears and weighs me down for a moment, a day, or a few days, and I like to connect back with a community that helped me through the worst of days. My life is different. I have re-coupled, changed jobs, moved cities...its all different. And while it's good, I often miss my old life. I believe living through the loss of a spouse changes us forever, and nobody else can really understand that quite the way we all do.

Hi I’m Carol and I lost my husband to lung cancer 2 months ago. I was doing okay off and on and all of a sudden my world feels like it is crashing down again. I’m doing 1 step forward and the. 5 steps backwards. I think now the stress is causing headaches and vertigo.. Plan to call doctors tomorrow to see if I can get something to get over this hump. Thank you for being here.

Hi I’m Carol and I lost my husband to lung cancer 2 months ago. I was doing okay off and on and all of a sudden my world feels like it is crashing down again. I’m doing 1 step forward and the. 5 steps backwards. I think now the stress is causing headaches and vertigo.. Plan to call doctors tomorrow to see if I can get something to get over this hump. Thank you for being here.

Hi Martha,

Daily Strength became a bright light at the end of my dark tunnel, catching glimpses of hope and survival. My husband passed in 2005 from an heart attack, I joined Daily Strength in 2009, after realizing that I, indeed, needed/wanted a safe place to speak truth instead of masking my pain. I could not burden my friends and family with the gut-wrenching pain of loss. That began a wonderful journey into my new normal (as so many have named it.) I check back occasionally to catch a chance to see how old friends are fairing as well as contribute words of hope to those braving the most difficult journey of their lives. Martha, you are a beautiful flame of hope as you converse with us fellow sojourners. Thank you so much for being available. So many here have become friends via the Internet, and I have had the privilege of meeting many through various Gatherings and Reunions. Each have blessed my life in special ways. Blessings to you, my friend. TJ

Hello.. My name is Mark. I just found this blog. I lost my wife to Cancer in June 2019. Still not quite sure how to get through this.

Welcome to all the newcomers, and a big hello to the oldtimers who have stopped by. I hope those of you who are new will take some encouragement from the oldies who have stopped by. I know it helped me in the early days.

Love and Big Hugs,
Martha

Hello,
I I just came across this site and thought it might be helpful to join others who have experienced the loss of a spouse. I lost my husband of 43 years on September 16th, 2019 to cancer. I am having quite a difficult time adjusting to my new life without my best friend beside me.

Lost my wife last Sunday. She had bad lungs and needed a transplant. Was given 6 months without it. She had to have a heart Cath to qualify. They stented 2 places. She bled into her lungs. Taking her off life support after they said she would never recover was the hardest thing I have done. Now I have to find a house mate or sell the lake front house I spent the last 4 years building because I only have 40% of our former income. She and I loved the house. I am having a bad day because the families have all flown home and for the first time, Me and the dogs are in and empty house.

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Hi Martha! It has been a while since I've been on this site, but it's good to come back. I was widowed in 2007 as well when my husband died of a heart attack at 40. We had two small children, one who is on the Autism spectrum (he was four at the time and hadn't been diagnosed yet - he was diagnosed the next year), and I've spent these years raising my sons, going back to college (a couple times), dating (too much work with kids for me!) and trying to enjoy my life while figuring out what I should do with it. I guess what is difficult for me is that the work that it takes after losing a spouse is never appreciated as much as the grief. That's where I struggle. My husband was in information technology and had a very busy career, so when he passed, I adopted a lifestyle that was more quiet - kids, school, and community. I miss my husband all the time, but I do feel that he is with me and the kids.