It is so difficult and sad to have your loved one left you so suddenly and unexpectedly. I welcome you to this group of which no one wants to join. I am very sorry for your loss. Here you will find us with great understanding of losing someone who was the rock of our lives. Feel free to read some of the past posts, and vent further if needed.

I want to let you know what you are going through is normal. You are going through a crazy, traumatic experience. Living with grief was by far the hardest thing that I experienced in my life. Be gentle with yourself.

I just dont want to do this. I lost my soulmate. How could God help us beat stage 4 cancer only to leave us when we really needed him. I'm angry with God. I hate him. Hes horrible to give me the love of my life and then RIP him from me in a short amount of time. We had so many plans. We will never go to Italy in July. We will never move to north Carolina in September. I dont wanr to walk this life alone . He completed me...made mewhile. He gave me reason to live and breathe. I dont wanr to find new purpose. He was my purpose. We finally got the kids to a point where they can manage on their own and ....he was taken from me. The only person I've ever loved. The only person I've ever needed and ...hes gone. We had so much fun that night.....it ended so suddenly .I've read the stories on here, i can't make it through years of loneliness anguish and grief. ..ide rather die . This feels like death....a death sentence yet I'm being punished and left on earth .

Whitedoves I wish there was something that would take this from you but I know there is not. My loss was sudden just as yours was. You have been blindsided . All of what you feel is normal even if nothing is normal to you right now. I hated God so much for taking the only man I ever loved. I still talk to God about it because he is big enough to understand my anger. Please what ever you do don't be afraid to reach out . We are here we know what you are going thru better than anyone. You are not alone . I wish you peace, Angela

First of all, I'm sorry for your great loss and I've felt everything your feeling right now. The best advice I could give is that you be kind to yourself, and take time to process your loss. Life truly seems unfair to us left behind. My husband and I were soul mates, always together, never in my wildest dreams did I think we could ever be parted, well until pancreatic cancer came into our lives and 9 months later he had passed. That was 8 yrs ago and yes I still grieve. Why wouldn't anybody grieve such a wonderful life, but it does get easier, better. Lean on family, friends, don't push them away. We didn't ask for this grief, but don't let it consume you or hate God. God is always with you. Please know many people are thinking of you and wish you peace and love.

I always thought he was a loving God but I've come to find he isn't. That is painful. I want my husband back. I want what we had. I want my life back. I'm nothing without him

I am so very sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband suddenly. They feelings are tremendous and gut wrenching. I am so so sorry. We are all here for you. We understand the immense pain you feel. Take one minute, one hour, one day at a time. One second at a time if needed. Don't push yourself too hard and make sure to drink something, Dehydration happens fast with never ending tears. God has big shoulders he can handle your anger. It is incomprehensible how or why this happens. We as survivors try to make sense of it only to find out that doing that is impossible. Grief will take you through many many feelings. Hang on tight and come here often.

Hugs
Lisa

I will not say "welcome" , that would be just too weird! But you have come to the right place. I feel comfortable here!

Please do post often and keep us aware of how you are doing.

I live in the Pacific Northwest, where are YOU located?

Blessings ~~~

KK

My heart goes out to you because I have experienced the same kind of loss. There is nothing that any of us here can say to make you feel better; however, we do understand and are glad that you found this group. Just know that you are not alone. Roxanne

One week. Oh that's so hard. I'm so so sorry. Gentle hugs.

I feel your pain and am so sorry. This is a wonderful group of people who have all experienced a loss. They understand and are here for you. Wishing you peace and comfort Love and Hugs, Dolores

I’m so sorry for your loss! I lost George that way. Starts like a normal day and suddenly your whole world changes and you have absolutely no idea what happened! The shock alone is beyond comprehension!
Don’t be hard on yourself, you need time to process this. Hugs

Thank you everyone. It's so hard. How do you move forward without your soulmate. I dont think il make it to the other side and if I do....I dont know If I want to. There is nothing on the other side for me to look forward to. Life without him is painful and I dont want to do it . There is nothing to look forward to. Why would I walk the earth alone without him? Its purposeless and lonely

I know its hard to go through life without the one we love.
We never get over it but we will get through it.
Praying for you,
Judy

But once through...what's on the other side ?? Emptiness and loneliness

God had nothing to do with your husband's death. That will come as a shock, I am sure, just as it did when I finally figured out that God had nothing to do with Cliff's death - by sudden heart attack as well. If anything, you and I were both granted a reprieve and given more time with our husbands than we were destined to have otherwise. I didn't realize this until one of my sons told me flat out that "Dad would have been gone a lot sooner if you hadn't taken such good care of him (and us)."

My world and all of our plans shattered in moments. I do know what you're going through. And the feelings of utter pointlessness. Those will pass. It will be hell for awhile, but slowly you will start to regain some strength and start to realize that there is still some purpose(s) for you here. It is different for each of us, and it doesn't happen over night, but you will figure it out.

I am 10+ years from that awful day. I still miss him, but grief is not in control of my life. I am accustomed to missing him. But missing him has not stopped me from rebuilding my life, finding happiness, finding purpose, and love finding me again -- all of which I believed to be impossible when I was where you are now. In my darkest moments, I thought of ending it all, but I would tell myself, "Not today." After enough of 'todays', I was all right. And I am glad that I did not give up and give in to the despair - I would have missed so very much. It has absolutely been worth it to keep going.

I am sorry for your loss and the toll it is taking on you. There are hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone:

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UK: Samaritans (Nat'l and local): 116 123 or jo@samaritans.org"

You can get through this. You're not alone.

Love and Hugs,
Martha