Are you working with a therapist, Asher? Competent professional guidance sure can make a difference.

Flashbacks are crazy business. In my mind, a sane flashback is called, "A Memory." It comes and goes without taking over my senses. My own crippling flashbacks tend to daisy-chain where one flashback leads to another, often in completely insensible order. I, just-a-patient personal, do better when I don't try to make sense of them. When I *simply* follow them, they often lead me to wounds in need of cleaning and healing.

Gentle support while you sort your own, Asher. ^It^ tends to be at least a little different for everybody.

Yeah im working with a therapist but i havent seen her in a while @arfie

It's good that you come here to talk about your flashbacks, Ash. I have them, too, and I've come to be able to manage them by talking about them. To my therapist and here, too. Friends here at DS PTSD shared this therapist's link with me. It may tide you over until you see your therapist.

http://www.psychotherapy.net/article/complex-ptsd

Hi there. First of all it is important to recognize that it happened to you. Also it is important to recognize that there is fear in your thoughts. My advice to you is to write your thoughts on a journal. It will somewhat help because it will somewhat purge your fearful thoughts about that experience. When it pops in your head again, recognize it, don't do something to make it go away, instead say to yourself that it will not happen again over and over again. Also when you start making a journal try saying your intentions/prayers. ;) Hope your doing well today.

I am sorry to hear you are experiencing some very scary flashbacks, but I am really glad you are reaching out for help. It is the right thing to do.
There is some good news in your post, you are able to recognize you are having flashbacks, this means you can now start to work on identifying them earlier and earlier and eventually stop them before they actually happen.
But right now, you are in a flashback and you need some strategies for helping with that. So here is what works for me. As a former cutter, an elastic band around the wrist worked wonders for me. Instead of cutting, I would snap the band, not only did it satisfy the urge, but it often helped to bring me back from the flashback. Perhaps since you are no longer cutting you are having some problems pulling yourself out of the flashback. Maybe this would work for you?
I also found photography helpful. Take your cellphone or camera and go out and take pictures of things you find beautiful, buildings with cool designs, trees, clouds, interesting objects around the house, or light shining through a window, anything really. I found this keep me present and gave me some relief from processing for a few hours anyway. Those breaks made it easier to get through the difficult times. I guess what I am saying is try to find something that is both interesting to you and distracts you so you can have a break from the haunting flashbacks.
I hope you find something that works but remember, these tough times of processing information will come and go, this will end and the darkness will life.
Hugs