Much purring support and prayer, Muji.

Glad your talk went well, but so sad for th eloss of life...

yes, Muji, prayers now for your student and any others who will have been affected yb this loss. so grateful he came to you for comfort and wisdom, he came to the right person, gentle hugs

glad too that your talk went so well, more hugs

Muji, Sending Strength, Prayers to you, the student, all who grieve this tragic loss of life , so very sad, but glad he went to you to lean on. Much Support to you all

I am so sorry for this terrible and painful loss.... Huge hug for you muji... I am glad that your student has been able to lean on you.... You can lean on us... Bless all who are grieving...xo

Thanks, all. In addition to the tragic accident that caused 3 to lose their lives over the weekend, today there was a fight in the cafeteria. For the first time ever, city police came on campus to stop it--a lot of them.

Quite a day at my little college.

((( HUG )))

You are strong person, you've come this far. You will help these people to recover. Hugs!

Muji an additional class in PTSS , before the last S becomes a D.might be in order. Prayers to all and I am glad your feedback was good.

Though I can see how the other two events seem to override any good feelings. So hard to celebrate in the faces with sorrow.
I think the police were ready for some fall out, but maybe not that kind.
Hugs and you do deserve a pat on the back for the lecture and the support to your student.
Jewell

That was very kind of you it's hard being the pillar of strength. Hugs.

drinking and driving, such a senseless thing. I am sorry you are hurting but I am glad the students have you to help them cope. Please make sure you take time to heal yourself as well. Lots of self care Mujij.

much support to you and your student.

Here are 3 things I asked my student to do in the next 24 hours since his friend died in the fire of that car wreck:

To be with his bro's young widow and baby and start
a life review of good memories of him (short and long term work)

To be with someone else every night when his bro would
call him after work as suicide prevention (short term work)

To ask to be a pall bearer in his bro's funeral to do one
last thing for his friend who died (long term work)

If you think of anything else, let me know. It has to be simple and concrete, he's a mess right now.

Thanks.

sending prayers

sending prayers for you and your students family, very sad

My friend has her brother die in a drunk driving accident...must be 20-25 years ago now. Her niece, her only brother's only child, was just a baby at the time.

It wasn't easy.

I don't think that there's any way out but through. Nor do I think that there is any one way of getting through it.

My dad died when I was 22. At the time he was the ONLY family I was ever close to. (Oh I grew up with both parents, and my mother and sister are still alive to this day...but my dad was the only person I was attached to in the least.) It was, and forever will be the greatest loss I'll ever have.

And I've twice thought my kids were dead. When my daughter was 3, we went to Myrtle Beach and she went missing. Eight adults couldn't find her. I walked up and down the beach crying and planning her funeral. The plus side is...I now know just how I'd like her funeral to be...but that's another story...

The thing is. Death isn't a contest. There IS no better way. No worse way. Sudden, 6 months, 5 years. Good and bad things about death being drawn out... Trauma, or not. Crime or not.

A friend's mother died when her accelerator got stuck. Here one day...gone, literally, the next.

I don't think that there's anything wrong with "being a mess". I was a mess when my dad died.

The ONE thing that I did for me, that had meaning was: I walked from my house to the cemetery with my dog. My dog, my first born, was just a puppy back them. From a distance, we watched them dig the grave with a backhoe and put the coffin in. It was only when I walked over that they saw me there.

Oh and my dog peed on the grave. No symbolism. Just life going on. So maybe it was symbolism...for me. I'm atheist and there's peace and meaning in that. I've long given up on theists understanding.

I did a lot of crap for my mom. Things that I was "told" to do. I did it. I hated it. I put in my duty. She was pissed that I didn't invite her to walk to the cemetery. Oh well...

Walking to the cemetery was for me. If I ever get back to Pittsburgh, I'll probably sprinkle my pup's ashes on my dad's grave. Maybe not. He lives in my heart, and that's enough.

He'll either find that "thing" for him...or he won't. It may end up being something you suggest, or it could be something that would have meaning only to him. It's not easy...and that's okay.

Just my two cents...