Pet Bereavement Support Group

The loss of a pet or animal to which one has become emotionally bonded can be an intense loss, comparable with the death of a loved one. Whilst there is strong evidence that animals can feel such loss for other animals, this community focuses on human feelings, when an animal is lost, dies or otherwise is departed.

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My Boy is gone

feeshee
feeshee
Have you ever had a cat that just wants to be near you all the time? So loving and affectionate. Sweet-natured and gentle. He just came into my life one day and never left. He wanted out a couple of nights ago. When I called him before going to bed he didn't come. Feeling uneasy, I went to bed. He didn't come the next morning for breakfast. I knew something was wrong. I called for him and checked every place I thought he might be. I decided to drive around the block to look for him. Maybe he was at a neighbor's. Sometimes he did that. I glanced in the yard of a neighbor's and there he lay. I screamed. I couldn't stop. Please God, don't let it be Boy. He had been attacked by something.....a wild animal? Such a sweet, sweet spirit leaving this world in such a violent, horrific way. I was stunned. This is a horrible, horrible nightmare. Please God, let it be a horrible nightmare. He really is gone. In a daze, I buried him. That was yesterday. When he came into my life three years ago, I was suffering a profound depression. I think my deceased husband sent him to me because I needed affection and something to hold and love. I have other pets, but I've never felt such pure love from any pet I've ever had. Now he's gone. I can't sleep. I keep seeing his mutilated body......the body I could not believe was Boy. I feel empty and lonely. I hope we go through pain like this for a reason....I'd like to think me and my Boy will be together again one day....never to be lonely again. Thank you for reading this. I just didn't know what else to do. It hurts.
Veronica77
Veronica77
I am so sorry. I lost my cat Lucy 10/28/13 at 16 years of age. She would have been 17 in three months. I had to have her put to sleep as she was failing. I had the vet come to my place as I didn't want her to have a scary car ride before having her put down. I held her in my lap as she passed. I had to end her suffering which was the only thing that got me through it. I often sensed her around me after she passed, and had a dream were she was on the bed and cuddling with me. I picked her up and hugged her, and then she starting walking around me on the bed again rubbing her head against me. I picked her up again and held her when suddenly I woke up with a start. It was very real! I think she came to say goodbye to me as her last days with me were very stressful just trying to keep her comfortable. It was a comforting dream and she is waiting for me at the Rainbow Bridge where she is enjoying herself running and playing with my other cats that have passed. We will be together again someday! ((Big hug))
feeshee
feeshee
Thank you, Veronica, for taking the time to respond. It helps knowing that someone else understands how painful this is. I just miss him so much. I hope and pray they're waiting for us in heaven. Right now that is the only thing that keeps me going.....that and my other fur babies. Again, thank you for your heartfelt reply.
billwfriend
billwfriend
I wish I had a copy of the rainbow bridge in my computer to give you but if you scroll back thru this group I am sure you will find that poem....I am sorry Boy got killed by another animal...it could have been an owl or a coyote or even a dog I suppose....I know how it ruins your day to lose a pet....I have not had to go thru the way you did but did have a dog one time killed by a van on street....I heard it happen as I had just called him and he was running to come to me....got hit...

sorry...do search thru here for the story poem of the rainbow bridge...
feeshee
feeshee
Thank you Bill. You're very kind to reply. I do have "The Rainbow Bridge" which is very comforting. I do hope and pray we will be with our pets again someday.
billwfriend
billwfriend
as I see it that would be heaven for me to be with my pets again....
merren
merren
I am so so sorry. I lost my 16 year old dog two weeks ago and my heart is broken. I am in a new relationship with my sweetheart who is five months into grieving his beloved dog who died suddenly in his arms. It is very hard to deal with the pain, to walk through it, but it will get better I believe. I know that my girl is always with me in spirit, and I know that she is waiting at the Rainbow Bridge. That keeps me going to. Lately I have been having a very hard time being at my home ...it is just not the same at all without her and I am starting to have some delayed profound grief. I have also sustained the passing of a very close firmed this year also who died with me beside him. It has been a rough year and grief is currently ruling my world.....it is making me feel alone, insecure and on edge. My thoughts are with you.
17butterfly49
17butterfly49
I am so sorry you lost Boy in such a horrific way. I've never known more unconditional love than from my pets. It is very painful to lose them, especially like this. Boy was very blessed to have someone like you that loved him and took care of him. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy as I know what you are going through.
annettearizona
annettearizona
I'm sorry for your loss-our doggy is the only family I have left now myself
feeshee
feeshee
Thank you 17 and Annette. It helps to know someone understands.
feeshee
feeshee
Merren, so sorry for your loss. I appreciate your response. It helps to know others understand.
whale14
whale14
I'm so sorry for your loss, I can really understand has I lost my J. So I'm sending you lots of comforting hugs
Gizziesmom
Gizziesmom
You will be together again one day it's what I hold onto , I'm sorry you lost your baby in such a horrific way and you had to be the one to find him, there's a reason you did, to bring your baby back home , he's with you, he will be always with each memory that tugs at your heart,some will make you cry others smile, I had a cat that lived for 19 years, he was always with me , we even played hide and seek , I was a married woman ! I thought I would never get past losing him , I have so many wonderful memories of my little best friend , he loved you and you loved him , sounds like you had a wonderful life together , try to think of all the good memories that's how you want to remember him , I'm so sorry for your loss
feeshee
feeshee
Thank you Whale 14. It has been about six weeks since Boy was killed. I miss him so much. Thank you for your reply. It really is comforting that someone understands this pain. Bless you.
feeshee
feeshee
Thank you Gizziesmom. I hope and pray our pets will be with us again one day. I can't imagine heaven without my beloved fur babies. It still hurts to think of Boy, I think because of the violent way that he died. He was such a calm, affectionate, sweet kitty. I know the day will come when I'll smile when I think of the time we had together. Thank you for your comforting words.
vulpine
vulpine
I do understand your sadness over the loss of your boy. I also know another cat shall wonder into your life and bring back this joy you are missing. They say that when we go to Heaven, our animals are the first ones that great us! Think of the happy times and not that haunting vision you saw. It's not your fault!
I had a diabetic boy named Big Boy. I lost 66 pounds when I had to put him down. I still have his mother Mitzi, she's 17 now. I was set on never getting another cat because of the hurt I had. But one day, this white kitten came into my life.
Sending you a hug from Texas!
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