Panic Attacks Support Group

A panic attack is a period of intense fear or discomfort, typically with an abrupt onset and usually lasting no more than thirty minutes. Symptoms include trembling, shortness of breath, heart palpitations, sweating, nausea, dizziness, hyperventilation, and sensations of choking or smothering. Panic attacks can be very sudden, appear to be unprovoked, and are often...

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Don't Take My Place

ts1050
ts1050

I've noticed whenever I introduce a friend of mine to someone else I know, it seems like it only does harm to me and my friendship with this person.  I am very insecure and people do not help or realize it either.  I introduce two friends to each other, and bam, they're best friend who fall in love and I feel like the third wheel being left out.  I introduce two college friends and bam, one tries to get closer to the other, more than I am (making me feel like my place is taken) and tries to see if a relationship can be started.  I know I cannot be in the way of others relations, but it pisses me off because it always ends up backfiring on me. I always result in anxiety attacks and thinking irrationally due to a sense of lost friendship, my place being taken, or uncomfortable being around two new love birds going through that 2 year "honeymoon phase". My breakdowns from it and not being comfrotable with speaking up to them are only more intolerable. And I get it, I am to blame for some of this because I have the power to speak up, even though I am too timid to.

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
This may sound like a simplistic thing to say but - how about not introducing a new friend to another friend? :) At least until you have established a solid, strong, longer friendship with this person first. Also, ask these two "new buddies", "Hey, can you introduce me to some people? Since I introduced YOU two!" :) With a smile, and half joking (but you're not joking). You can send it by text if you feel timid to say it out loud. It does seem like you are good at meeting new people, and that is a good quality to have. How about going with these two "new buddies" to a group hang out? Either at a party, friends' gathering, bar (if you drink?), but it's just for you to socialize. I am certain you will find and make your own friends real soon :)
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