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marilyn4342
marilyn4342
My husband's Aunt passed away last night and my husband is acting like it doesn't affect him at all. This woman helped raise him. Her kids were his closest cousins and friends. I am upset and trying to help the family make arrangements. I don't know how to reach him. He acts like he doesn't care! Suggestions?
bleedinblue
bleedinblue
No suggestions Marilyn just stay supportive so sorry about the death in your family.
marilyn4342
marilyn4342
Thank you dear friend!
lchoppel
lchoppel
He acts like he doesn't care when the woman practically raised him? It sounds to me that he is having a dfficult time accepting his loss. Men are strange creatures, they mourn differently sometimes. He needs to have a good cry, hopefully he will soon.

I'm so sorry for your loss.
AusSue
AusSue
Sorry for your loss & you are a good friend to be helping with all the arrangements.
I have found that my hubby mourns differently. He does it quietly & doesn't say much at all, he wont say much about the person who has passed away & it is like he is denial. Later on he will throw comments out like "its going to be hard on their bd" etc & others like christmas etc. He does feel it just not good at expressing it.
Men are different & process it different, just be there for him & be ready to talk when he decides to at his pace.
Lots of hugs ))
dxat59
dxat59
I have never seen my husband show any emotion over the loss of anyone. It is just not in his makeup. Some people are just that way. I guess I feel enough for both of us.

Gentle hugs, Linda
lorrieonline
lorrieonline
I've heard a friend describe this sort of thing as just going into retreat. I've also seen some people just shut off their emotions and basically refuse to allow themselves to breakdown or grieve until a time that it just comes on suddenly.

We all seem to have our own way of coping so I agree, just be supportive. So sorry for your loss.
ezone
ezone
Just continue to be supportive as you are doing. I DO NOT understand men. Men sometimes do not show their feelings. He could be grieving in his own way.

So sorry for your loss.
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