Hi Ajan. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

Let me tell you something. You have to 1. Find love for yourself... from yourself 2. Learn to give love in a lot of different ways

The way you are thinking about relationships is this one limited concept--you're putting it in a box. Likewise, the way you think of yourself is limited--in a box. But it's incomplete--just your perspective. You can be attractive in a million different ways. And relationships can work in a million different ways.

True love really can grow from within. Think of people who are disabled or disfigured who are in loving relationships--it happens! But you have to find that love and nurture it for yourself. Then start to share it with others in little thoughtful ways.

Pretty soon you will be like a magnet... not just to women, not just for romance... but friends, acquaintances, coworkers. Love is all around us and it reveals itself in many ways. So experience it any little way you can.

It will take time and practice. It's very frustrating at times... why can't you just HAVE this love? What's so wrong with you? Let me tell you, Ajan, it is from the inside and not from the outside.

May you find love and healing, love yourself and others, and eventually find the true romance you deserve. Feel free to message me if you have any extra questions. Warm hugs!

I'm sorry you feel this way about yourself. There ARE things you can do though. For smart - take a class or two at the local college. Physically fit and muscular - start working out, lift weights, join a gym if you can and work with the gym's personal trainer. For attractiveness - that is only your perception, but you could get a different haircut, get some new clothes, etc.

But these are all superficial things. And to be honest, girls don't rank a guy's looks as high on their list of why they will date you. Do you have a decent job? Decent car? Just average job and car will do just fine by most girls. :) Girls are into a guy's personality and how you treat them as people.

Also, have you talked to a doctor because you seem depressed. You might need therapy for that, and possibly medications. I have seen other posts from you, and you just seem depressed.

Dude...I'm the same as you. I still myself unattractive. But it doesn't matter. You have to love yourself. Put some affirmations up and read them. Better yourself - read, workout, go to a meetup.

We all feel down and depressed at time. If it doesn't pass, get help. Talk to someone.

Finally, you see ..well ugly guys with the prettiest ladies. Because they have confidence and believe in themselves. Love yourself man.

Hey-there is a saying about Beauty being only skin deep. I have known most of my life that I am not Miss America but if people don't accept me for who I am-well that is their loss,not mine! I hold my head up high and live life to its fulliest.Gotta get out there and get involved with what you enjoy doing and you will find someone with your same interests that way too.